ok i smsed this girl to ask her out, 1st date, she declined sincerely i presume its bona fide. however I txted: "u look good in pink & i like it when u tie ur hair back", because i thought it'd make me seem confident and know what i want...which is the true...but does it come off as AFC? did i reveal i liked her too early?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I think i screwed up, opinions
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Move on bro, you got rejected. There's plenty more fish in the sea.
And after you got rejected, you compliment her? Not a good idea. That just shows that you're desperate.
And after you got rejected, you compliment her? Not a good idea. That just shows that you're desperate.
Few mistakes,would point them out for better methods next time.
-You SMSed her to ask her out.This actually depicts to the girl that you're not willing to talk to her in person or with a voice,whatever the reason.
-After she declined to go out with you,you still made a nice comment about her,which in no way makes you look confident.It actually tells the girl that you're going to be with her no matter how she treats you.
I truely believe that SMS is a very useless form of communication.It gives a person long time to think about what they want to say,which would totally be different from what they would've said impromptu.
Ok,so here's what you can do with this girl.
1.You can try one more time to ask her out,after 4-5 days.Call her this time or do it in person.If she declines,just say,'Too bad....For you'.And next her.
2.Don't make it a big deal that she declined to go out with you,just act as if nothing happened.It would make you look suave lol.And don't give her too much attention.
3.Talk to other girls in front of her,make yourself look like a really big PRIZE.If you do this correctly,you're gonna be charming.Read articles on charisma to know more.If you do this,there's a high chance the girl would go out with you next time you ask.
These are 3 things you can do.If I were you,I'd do the first one so that I don't waste time on just one girl and turn it into a one-itis.However,the 3rd one is pretty good too,it gets you acquainted to a whole lotta new girls which is good.
Cheers!
-You SMSed her to ask her out.This actually depicts to the girl that you're not willing to talk to her in person or with a voice,whatever the reason.
-After she declined to go out with you,you still made a nice comment about her,which in no way makes you look confident.It actually tells the girl that you're going to be with her no matter how she treats you.
I truely believe that SMS is a very useless form of communication.It gives a person long time to think about what they want to say,which would totally be different from what they would've said impromptu.
Ok,so here's what you can do with this girl.
1.You can try one more time to ask her out,after 4-5 days.Call her this time or do it in person.If she declines,just say,'Too bad....For you'.And next her.
2.Don't make it a big deal that she declined to go out with you,just act as if nothing happened.It would make you look suave lol.And don't give her too much attention.
3.Talk to other girls in front of her,make yourself look like a really big PRIZE.If you do this correctly,you're gonna be charming.Read articles on charisma to know more.If you do this,there's a high chance the girl would go out with you next time you ask.
These are 3 things you can do.If I were you,I'd do the first one so that I don't waste time on just one girl and turn it into a one-itis.However,the 3rd one is pretty good too,it gets you acquainted to a whole lotta new girls which is good.
Cheers!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The Real Ice Man
Don Juan
i think you screwed up, too
ask people out in person
ask people out in person