Well, after being in a 2 year long relationship, breaking up and getting over it all I think I'm finally ready to get back out there. A little info... I'm a sophmore in college and in a frat. Needless to say I'm pretty social... Even when I don't want to. Anyway, I'm not too much into the Sorority slut scene at all. I'm really digging life right now. I got friends, school is going good and my hobbies really keep me interested. Anyhow, there is this one girl I want to try and go after. We've chilled out quite a few times beforehand. Anyhow, over Thanksgiving break while I'm sitting on the couch the entire time surfing the web we started talking on Aim. Yea, I know... Not the best but its a start. You know, the typical 3 hour convo into the wee hours of the night and all that jazz. We then chill out the day I get back. Her idea. We had a blast. That was last weekend. This week has been so busy for me, but I called her up the other day and asked her to lunch. She said sure... You know sounded excited about it and all. Texted me a couple of times before the lunch fling and whatnot. Went out and had another great time. That was yesterday. ... Now what? Do I keep asking her to chill and dates or what. Intiate kino? Help an old DJ out.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think I lost my game
- Thread starter Mugen
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
best tip ever!!!
5 stars!
5 stars!
Mugen,
Call her tomorrow and make plans for another date. Ask her out that very same night since shes obviously interested in you. Keep the mystery up, remain C&F and tease her a bit.
Example:
Me: Hey! hows your day been?
Her: Oh, blah blah yada yada
Me: How about you make your day a million times better by seeing me this evening. You get extra points to by letting me surprise you with where we're going.
Just an idea. Feel free to improve
Call her tomorrow and make plans for another date. Ask her out that very same night since shes obviously interested in you. Keep the mystery up, remain C&F and tease her a bit.
Example:
Me: Hey! hows your day been?
Her: Oh, blah blah yada yada
Me: How about you make your day a million times better by seeing me this evening. You get extra points to by letting me surprise you with where we're going.
Just an idea. Feel free to improve
diablo
Master Don Juan
DJ Tips is for giving tips, not asking for them.
Moved to DJD.
Moved to DJD.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.