"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think I am F.U.C.K.E.D

iryst

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As a follow-up to this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=223248

I am 26 and as I said there, I was an idiot for not trying to get girls sooner. I guess I was too scared before, that's why I didn't try anything and in my age, I am almost totally inexperienced (if I don't count a few totally drunk lays, which mostly ended up with me not being able to perform anyways). The girl from the thread dumped me if you didn't read the last post.

Now it just seems to me that my situation is beyond repair, because when I get another girl into bed, she will see that I am not able to provide good sex for her.

I need to know a solution, but I can't think of any - I am hardly getting a few dates a year and only one or two of them end up in bed, so far only with poor performance on my side.

Is there a way out of this ****? What way?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Zapp Brannigan

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You need to work on your confidence and self-worth some more. Read the entire DJ Bible, and you'll feel better.

I'm 19 and feel the same way. But we're young, and there are plenty of chances out there for both of us. Women today are wilder than ever, and there's more than enough to go around.

Another thing to keep in mind, you found this site, and are working on self-improvement like the rest of us here. Think about all of the dudes out there who don't know of this site, and are making the mistakes this forum warns us about. You're already one step ahead of them.
 

LMFAO

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You're not fvcked, the good thing is that there's more material out there than ever. Imagine being in this situation 15 years ago, with next to nothing to help you. I would read the DJ Bible and watch through all the RSD videos on Youtube. It will take time but you will be a better man for it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Partizan

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26? Pffft. I started this site in my mid-30's and it is paying huge dividends.
 

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LMFAO said:
You're not fvcked, the good thing is that there's more material out there than ever. Imagine being in this situation 15 years ago, with next to nothing to help you. I would read the DJ Bible and watch through all the RSD videos on Youtube. It will take time but you will be a better man for it.
Early 2000s all I remember was askmen.com & david deangelo that wasnt til 03 from what I remember. Oh & Doc Love around the same time.
 
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