"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I tend to daydream alot

Enigma2517

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This sounds stupid but I really can't stop daydreaming. Either I'm sitting in class or listening to CDs or whatever and I just start fantisizing. Usually about chicks. Thats not good. Probably creates some unwanted oneitis there and what not. Might be killing in ambitions. I dunno you tell me.

From what I've read on this site so far, this sort of behavoir is not helpful at all. I think getting rid of it might be key in improving myself. I'm going to start trying tomorrow. Any hints?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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thefonz

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try taking up meditation or something, do it everyday for half and hour at the same time of day....works wonders for concentration
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DeathDealer

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Originally posted by Unbridled_1
sounds like attention deficit disorder.... get some meds
Please, most people are misdiagnosed with ADD. I call it short attention span. I bet you come from the bible belt that helped Bush get re-elected. The highest cases of ADD come from bible belt, or rather.. parents who rather watch tv and mind their business than raise children.
 

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you dont have ADD.....I thought the same about me..I daydream alot and still do!

I am very passionate with alot of fantisies and ideas.

I say Day Dream..but do productive daydreaming

like meditation!
 

thefonz

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as a man who has been on all kindas of drugs for mental problems i'll tell you right now, it's only temporary, if that....the only way to solve this stuff is to change the way you think......meditation and daydreaming are not the same, mediation is INTENSE concentration and if your feeling drowsy and your mind wanders your not doing it right, you should be aware of everything around you, your body and enviroment when meditating
 

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I'm the same.

Go out and do some excersize and socialise a lot more. Dont get into a sedatory lifestyle again.

As soon as you force yourself to socialise more, you're a lot more alert to everything around you.

Meditation would be good if you dont start day dreaming. Although really, you can daydream while medatating... well it's not day dreaming... but it's close... blaugh :p
 
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