"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I tend to daydream alot

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This sounds stupid but I really can't stop daydreaming. Either I'm sitting in class or listening to CDs or whatever and I just start fantisizing. Usually about chicks. Thats not good. Probably creates some unwanted oneitis there and what not. Might be killing in ambitions. I dunno you tell me.

From what I've read on this site so far, this sort of behavoir is not helpful at all. I think getting rid of it might be key in improving myself. I'm going to start trying tomorrow. Any hints?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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try taking up meditation or something, do it everyday for half and hour at the same time of day....works wonders for concentration
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Unbridled_1
sounds like attention deficit disorder.... get some meds
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Please, most people are misdiagnosed with ADD. I call it short attention span. I bet you come from the bible belt that helped Bush get re-elected. The highest cases of ADD come from bible belt, or rather.. parents who rather watch tv and mind their business than raise children.
 
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you dont have ADD.....I thought the same about me..I daydream alot and still do!

I am very passionate with alot of fantisies and ideas.

I say Day Dream..but do productive daydreaming

like meditation!
 
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as a man who has been on all kindas of drugs for mental problems i'll tell you right now, it's only temporary, if that....the only way to solve this stuff is to change the way you think......meditation and daydreaming are not the same, mediation is INTENSE concentration and if your feeling drowsy and your mind wanders your not doing it right, you should be aware of everything around you, your body and enviroment when meditating
 
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I'm the same.

Go out and do some excersize and socialise a lot more. Dont get into a sedatory lifestyle again.

As soon as you force yourself to socialise more, you're a lot more alert to everything around you.

Meditation would be good if you dont start day dreaming. Although really, you can daydream while medatating... well it's not day dreaming... but it's close... blaugh :p
 
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