"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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nroug7

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And I need help, I mean. I need real help here.
The guy has become so completely consumed by his own arrogance he fails to see the need of things like Pride and Dignity.
I think it might be a little to late to pull in the reins on him, he's completely let loose and has no self-respect.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Zion said:
How does one become arrogant to the point of being consumed by it , if said person has no self respect?
Well, He's arrogant as all hell, but he has no self respect, I don't know how to describe it, he doesn't care for the quality of girls he's hooking up with, or their backgrounds or anything.
He doesn't care about his public standing, he just wants cheap thrills, he's not in the game to improve on himself, he just wants to hit on women.
He doesn't even really believe he is the prize or anything, he's just pursuing women *Right, he doesn't even succeed with many because he is actively pursuing them.
Although. he does seem to get the idea with plates. But he might be trying to get too many :crackup:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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nroug7 said:
Well, He's arrogant as all hell, but he has no self respect, I don't know how to describe it, he doesn't care for the quality of girls he's hooking up with, or their backgrounds or anything.
He doesn't care about his public standing, he just wants cheap thrills, he's not in the game to improve on himself, he just wants to hit on women.
He doesn't even really believe he is the prize or anything, he's just pursuing women *Right, he doesn't even succeed with many because he is actively pursuing them.
Although. he does seem to get the idea with plates. But he might be trying to get too many :crackup:
I would call this "egomaniac with an inferiority complex"
 

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nroug7 said:
And I need help, I mean. I need real help here.
The guy has become so completely consumed by his own arrogance he fails to see the need of things like Pride and Dignity.
I think it might be a little to late to pull in the reins on him, he's completely let loose and has no self-respect.

Did he ask you for help ?
 

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You can't help him. He needs to hit rock-bottom.
 

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Let him do his thing for a while. It will probably help him figure out what he does want in the end. He will either want lots of ass or something more committed. It's up to him to decide that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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nroug7

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bradd80 said:
Ok wait a second nroug, now i don't mean to be argumentative or anything but your friend does seem to have some very don juan like qualities. Allow me to demonstrate just from what you've told us:













I mean, is it possible that maybe you and him just have different ideas of what a hot girl is? Some of my friends - to me - seem to have lower standards in their women, but who am I to tell them what beautiful should be?

Does your friend seem happy the way things are, or does he bang chics that are so fvcking ugly that you're embarrassed to even be associated with him? If it is this last one, then i can understand why you feel the way you do
He's not happy at all, it's just his way of making up for the things he lacks. He's unhappy, jobless, doesn't want to improve on anything etc.
By Arrogant, I don't mean suavely arrogant, I mean jerkishly arrogant. His opening line is "Nice tits" - Can you say Slvt shields! :crackup: (Can you understand how that reflects upon me as his friend?) and he goes out of his way to try and start fights with people.
He doesn't care about his public standing as in, he doesn't care about what others think of him, this would be a good thing if it weren't for the fact that he has no sense of self-pride.
In fact, I have a feeling the guy may suffer from some sort of depression/mental illness, he normally acts extremely negatively, and it's as if he's trying to use this stuff to cover his flaws rather then work on them.
Hopefully I've gone a bit more in-depth to explain things, I should have considered including the stuff about him seeming depressive in a previous post, but it did not cross my mind up until now.
 

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uh time to get new friends man.
 
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