"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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nroug7

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And I need help, I mean. I need real help here.
The guy has become so completely consumed by his own arrogance he fails to see the need of things like Pride and Dignity.
I think it might be a little to late to pull in the reins on him, he's completely let loose and has no self-respect.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nroug7

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Zion said:
How does one become arrogant to the point of being consumed by it , if said person has no self respect?
Well, He's arrogant as all hell, but he has no self respect, I don't know how to describe it, he doesn't care for the quality of girls he's hooking up with, or their backgrounds or anything.
He doesn't care about his public standing, he just wants cheap thrills, he's not in the game to improve on himself, he just wants to hit on women.
He doesn't even really believe he is the prize or anything, he's just pursuing women *Right, he doesn't even succeed with many because he is actively pursuing them.
Although. he does seem to get the idea with plates. But he might be trying to get too many :crackup:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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nroug7 said:
Well, He's arrogant as all hell, but he has no self respect, I don't know how to describe it, he doesn't care for the quality of girls he's hooking up with, or their backgrounds or anything.
He doesn't care about his public standing, he just wants cheap thrills, he's not in the game to improve on himself, he just wants to hit on women.
He doesn't even really believe he is the prize or anything, he's just pursuing women *Right, he doesn't even succeed with many because he is actively pursuing them.
Although. he does seem to get the idea with plates. But he might be trying to get too many :crackup:
I would call this "egomaniac with an inferiority complex"
 

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nroug7 said:
And I need help, I mean. I need real help here.
The guy has become so completely consumed by his own arrogance he fails to see the need of things like Pride and Dignity.
I think it might be a little to late to pull in the reins on him, he's completely let loose and has no self-respect.

Did he ask you for help ?
 

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You can't help him. He needs to hit rock-bottom.
 

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Let him do his thing for a while. It will probably help him figure out what he does want in the end. He will either want lots of ass or something more committed. It's up to him to decide that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nroug7

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bradd80 said:
Ok wait a second nroug, now i don't mean to be argumentative or anything but your friend does seem to have some very don juan like qualities. Allow me to demonstrate just from what you've told us:













I mean, is it possible that maybe you and him just have different ideas of what a hot girl is? Some of my friends - to me - seem to have lower standards in their women, but who am I to tell them what beautiful should be?

Does your friend seem happy the way things are, or does he bang chics that are so fvcking ugly that you're embarrassed to even be associated with him? If it is this last one, then i can understand why you feel the way you do
He's not happy at all, it's just his way of making up for the things he lacks. He's unhappy, jobless, doesn't want to improve on anything etc.
By Arrogant, I don't mean suavely arrogant, I mean jerkishly arrogant. His opening line is "Nice tits" - Can you say Slvt shields! :crackup: (Can you understand how that reflects upon me as his friend?) and he goes out of his way to try and start fights with people.
He doesn't care about his public standing as in, he doesn't care about what others think of him, this would be a good thing if it weren't for the fact that he has no sense of self-pride.
In fact, I have a feeling the guy may suffer from some sort of depression/mental illness, he normally acts extremely negatively, and it's as if he's trying to use this stuff to cover his flaws rather then work on them.
Hopefully I've gone a bit more in-depth to explain things, I should have considered including the stuff about him seeming depressive in a previous post, but it did not cross my mind up until now.
 

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uh time to get new friends man.
 
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