"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I stopped contact with her and she finally contacts me

baurman

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So I was talking to thsi girl that I like, like every day and I told myself, I NEED TO STOP before I get put in the Friends zone. So I forced myself to stop contacting her. We went 2 days without talking. And she FINALLY texts me saying "hey u! sorry im always busy lately. how u been"

Funny cause how can she be busy, she has no job, etc. probably busy just going out. But I didn't txt her back yet. Should I wait like about 3 hours or so? and just txt her back with something like "hey ive been super busy this week too" or what? She's playing the game Im sure with me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Effington

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I agree, if you're trying to build attraction then texting is not the way to go. It's hard to make jokes, and you never know if they're around to respond anyway. I wouldn't ignore her, but if you always give 1-2 word responses, she'll get the picture.
 

baurman

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This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
 

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baurman said:
This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
Good for her. You like talking on the phone so if she wants to contact you, she will have to pick up her lazy ass and dial your number.

Don't change how you do things over a woman.
 

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baurman said:
This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
Attention wh0re flag. TXT & IM allow them to communicate with many at the same time. A phone call forces them to focus on just one person.

Hold your ground. Don't get sucked in.

And screw the phone too. I like talking in person. My phone convos are often 2 minutes max. Make a date with her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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