"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I stopped contact with her and she finally contacts me

baurman

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So I was talking to thsi girl that I like, like every day and I told myself, I NEED TO STOP before I get put in the Friends zone. So I forced myself to stop contacting her. We went 2 days without talking. And she FINALLY texts me saying "hey u! sorry im always busy lately. how u been"

Funny cause how can she be busy, she has no job, etc. probably busy just going out. But I didn't txt her back yet. Should I wait like about 3 hours or so? and just txt her back with something like "hey ive been super busy this week too" or what? She's playing the game Im sure with me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Effington

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I agree, if you're trying to build attraction then texting is not the way to go. It's hard to make jokes, and you never know if they're around to respond anyway. I wouldn't ignore her, but if you always give 1-2 word responses, she'll get the picture.
 

baurman

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This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
 

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baurman said:
This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
Good for her. You like talking on the phone so if she wants to contact you, she will have to pick up her lazy ass and dial your number.

Don't change how you do things over a woman.
 

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baurman said:
This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
Attention wh0re flag. TXT & IM allow them to communicate with many at the same time. A phone call forces them to focus on just one person.

Hold your ground. Don't get sucked in.

And screw the phone too. I like talking in person. My phone convos are often 2 minutes max. Make a date with her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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