"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I stopped contact with her and she finally contacts me

baurman

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So I was talking to thsi girl that I like, like every day and I told myself, I NEED TO STOP before I get put in the Friends zone. So I forced myself to stop contacting her. We went 2 days without talking. And she FINALLY texts me saying "hey u! sorry im always busy lately. how u been"

Funny cause how can she be busy, she has no job, etc. probably busy just going out. But I didn't txt her back yet. Should I wait like about 3 hours or so? and just txt her back with something like "hey ive been super busy this week too" or what? She's playing the game Im sure with me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Effington

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I agree, if you're trying to build attraction then texting is not the way to go. It's hard to make jokes, and you never know if they're around to respond anyway. I wouldn't ignore her, but if you always give 1-2 word responses, she'll get the picture.
 

baurman

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This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
 

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baurman said:
This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
Good for her. You like talking on the phone so if she wants to contact you, she will have to pick up her lazy ass and dial your number.

Don't change how you do things over a woman.
 

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baurman said:
This girl is a txt wh0re. She hates talking on the phone because when I call her she rarely makes convo I hold the conversation and I end up telling her that Im gonna get off the phone. But she always tells me to get on AIM to talk to her or she Txts me.
Attention wh0re flag. TXT & IM allow them to communicate with many at the same time. A phone call forces them to focus on just one person.

Hold your ground. Don't get sucked in.

And screw the phone too. I like talking in person. My phone convos are often 2 minutes max. Make a date with her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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