Hey guys been out of the dating game for 2 years busy with school and work and just started dating again. I consider myself a good looking guy but i always ruin it. On 3 occasions i was close to hooking up with 2 girl from school and 1 from online but since ive been single for a long time i didint realize i was coming off as desperate and needy with these girls because i wanted to get a gf badly and they simply lost interest. What can i do to stop getting so excited and acting desperate. Help
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I seem desperate?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dustmuffin
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Wht did you do that was desperate?
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Yea itd be helpful if you elaborated a bit more and provided specifics. But either way guys typically make almost the exact same mistakes. And many of the members here are going to direct you to resources such as the DJ Bible. I'm also a fan of the following:
- The book of Pook
- 60 Years of Challenge (ebooks)
- Bradd80's thread on here (just google it, I can't remember the title off hand)
- Braddock's Guide to Text and Phone game
Whenever a girl seems really interested in me. I move way to fast and i start coming off as desperate. Thanka for the tips so far
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Read the posts suggested. It will take time and practice to relax.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.