Hey guys been out of the dating game for 2 years busy with school and work and just started dating again. I consider myself a good looking guy but i always ruin it. On 3 occasions i was close to hooking up with 2 girl from school and 1 from online but since ive been single for a long time i didint realize i was coming off as desperate and needy with these girls because i wanted to get a gf badly and they simply lost interest. What can i do to stop getting so excited and acting desperate. Help
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I seem desperate?
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
dustmuffin
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Wht did you do that was desperate?
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Yea itd be helpful if you elaborated a bit more and provided specifics. But either way guys typically make almost the exact same mistakes. And many of the members here are going to direct you to resources such as the DJ Bible. I'm also a fan of the following:
- The book of Pook
- 60 Years of Challenge (ebooks)
- Bradd80's thread on here (just google it, I can't remember the title off hand)
- Braddock's Guide to Text and Phone game
Whenever a girl seems really interested in me. I move way to fast and i start coming off as desperate. Thanka for the tips so far
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Read the posts suggested. It will take time and practice to relax.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.