SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
lmfao x 10000000 =/mustfirstregister said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
lmfao x 10000000 =/mustfirstregister said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If a guy doesn't want to post pics of himself, that's fine, and I don't have a problem with that, but to say that it's a gay thing to do for those who do want to, just reeks of insecurity IMO. Whether we like to admit it or not, NOT EVERYTHING a man does HAS to be masculine.SharinganUser said:Why do you keep saying that? It has nothing to with with insecurity. Stop trying to justify your feminine behavior by accusing anyone who thinks talking about hair and or this thread is fem, is insecure.
This attitude that anyone who exhibits masculine behaviour, or more to the point doesn't partake in typically female activities(such as discussing hairstyles) is gay, or insecure is just flat out ridiculous. It's just one more way that modern society has managed to emasculate the modern man.
Where does the line get drawn?
Let me ask you this. Have you ever held hands with another man? If not, then you must be insecure about your sexuality because if you knew you were straight then you'd have no problems with it.
You might like to talk about your hair and post pics of yourself on the internet, and that's fine, but when some other guys don't want to take up knitting with you, don't assume it's because their unsure of their sexuality.
But hey, I could be wrong and maybe Hugh Hefner is so insecure that he needed to surround himself with beautiful women his whole life just to make sure.
If you don't want to see pics, then don't look at the damn thread. Simple as that. It doesn't have anything to do with insecurity, there should be a DJ Scrapbook anyway. Most sites have a pic thread.Falcon25 said:I just think looking at a man's picture is insecure in itself. It means you are either a) attracted to men b) you want to see a face behind words so that you can say "I'm better looking than that guy for sure". Sounds to me that you are the extreme insecure one. I have no desire to see pictures of men who type on this site. That's just weird to me.
Amen.Korrupt said:Attention wh0re..
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Only a gay person would say that.bilboteabaggins said:enough with this gay talk, there is only one thing that makes you gay, well 2, sicking d!ck or sticking it in a dudes ass, putting pics up on a forum is not gay nor does it threaten hetero manhood....sheesh
Yes sir. No more arguing or gay talk or thread hijacking.Rollo Tomassi said:Clean it up or I close this thread.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
We need to go back to those days IMO.backbreaker said:This is a funny change of events. Back when I was new here, a long time ago.. you damn near had to post a picture with every post. No one would listen to you or just flame the crap out of you unless you had "proof" of everything.
Gray The Prince said:If a guy doesn't want to post pics of himself, that's fine, and I don't have a problem with that, but to say that it's a gay thing to do for those who do want to, just reeks of insecurity IMO. Whether we like to admit it or not, NOT EVERYTHING a man does HAS to be masculine.
And yeah, I held hand with another man before, but it was with teammates when we walked out of the banner during one of our football games or when me and some other players were selected as Captains for the coin toss. Everyone has different limits on what they think is too far, but in this case, this is nowhere near pushing the line.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The only thing that Un-gays this photo is the fact that you probably got to kill terrorists 24 hours ago.mustfirstregister said:
like i keep saying. that's what girls doAlle_Gory said:Dudes posting pictures for other dudes to comment on how attractive they are.
Thanks, I'll pass.
BBbardot said:i will edit this post with the pic in it when im home
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.