SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
lmfao x 10000000 =/mustfirstregister said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
lmfao x 10000000 =/mustfirstregister said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If a guy doesn't want to post pics of himself, that's fine, and I don't have a problem with that, but to say that it's a gay thing to do for those who do want to, just reeks of insecurity IMO. Whether we like to admit it or not, NOT EVERYTHING a man does HAS to be masculine.SharinganUser said:Why do you keep saying that? It has nothing to with with insecurity. Stop trying to justify your feminine behavior by accusing anyone who thinks talking about hair and or this thread is fem, is insecure.
This attitude that anyone who exhibits masculine behaviour, or more to the point doesn't partake in typically female activities(such as discussing hairstyles) is gay, or insecure is just flat out ridiculous. It's just one more way that modern society has managed to emasculate the modern man.
Where does the line get drawn?
Let me ask you this. Have you ever held hands with another man? If not, then you must be insecure about your sexuality because if you knew you were straight then you'd have no problems with it.
You might like to talk about your hair and post pics of yourself on the internet, and that's fine, but when some other guys don't want to take up knitting with you, don't assume it's because their unsure of their sexuality.
But hey, I could be wrong and maybe Hugh Hefner is so insecure that he needed to surround himself with beautiful women his whole life just to make sure.
If you don't want to see pics, then don't look at the damn thread. Simple as that. It doesn't have anything to do with insecurity, there should be a DJ Scrapbook anyway. Most sites have a pic thread.Falcon25 said:I just think looking at a man's picture is insecure in itself. It means you are either a) attracted to men b) you want to see a face behind words so that you can say "I'm better looking than that guy for sure". Sounds to me that you are the extreme insecure one. I have no desire to see pictures of men who type on this site. That's just weird to me.
Amen.Korrupt said:Attention wh0re..
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Only a gay person would say that.bilboteabaggins said:enough with this gay talk, there is only one thing that makes you gay, well 2, sicking d!ck or sticking it in a dudes ass, putting pics up on a forum is not gay nor does it threaten hetero manhood....sheesh
Yes sir. No more arguing or gay talk or thread hijacking.Rollo Tomassi said:Clean it up or I close this thread.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
We need to go back to those days IMO.backbreaker said:This is a funny change of events. Back when I was new here, a long time ago.. you damn near had to post a picture with every post. No one would listen to you or just flame the crap out of you unless you had "proof" of everything.
Gray The Prince said:If a guy doesn't want to post pics of himself, that's fine, and I don't have a problem with that, but to say that it's a gay thing to do for those who do want to, just reeks of insecurity IMO. Whether we like to admit it or not, NOT EVERYTHING a man does HAS to be masculine.
And yeah, I held hand with another man before, but it was with teammates when we walked out of the banner during one of our football games or when me and some other players were selected as Captains for the coin toss. Everyone has different limits on what they think is too far, but in this case, this is nowhere near pushing the line.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
The only thing that Un-gays this photo is the fact that you probably got to kill terrorists 24 hours ago.mustfirstregister said:
like i keep saying. that's what girls doAlle_Gory said:Dudes posting pictures for other dudes to comment on how attractive they are.
Thanks, I'll pass.
BBbardot said:i will edit this post with the pic in it when im home
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.