Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I hate that this is my girl mentality. Anyways you need to calm down a real dj never gets angry we're smart that's what makes us djs. Secondly what we do are not trick there is no kino tricks no rapport tricks. This well miss you up if you're thinking you're tricking someone. Thirdly you need to make here realize that you are better and he is not. Don't be an @ss about it be smooth. Say something like he that guy was really cool but his breath stanked. She'll, "really I didn't notice". Then you say,"you can hang around him if you want but I don't want that stink killin me". There simple and with less anger.Last Man Standing said:You have "been" with her for a week and now she is "your" girl? HUH????
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I like how this last part makes even less sense than the rest.thn2 said:Now, I'm a half jerk. At least, I have been lifting weights very hard and now feel like not giving a f*ck. But, there are times when my nice guy side unconscious shows up.
Some advices, please.....