"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I really, really need help here (regarding alcohol and a friendship with a girl)

BannedGod

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Ok so I have this friend who is kind of an attention *****... she tries to get as much attention as she can (not by sleeping with people though) and one of her best way is to make the guy think she likes him than when she has what she wants, she just dumps him or whatever.

Now I guess I've fallen into her trap (well I'm not even sure, stupid alcohol). However, I don't love her, never have, never will... I just considered her a really great friend because she was always acting normal with me so I didn't really care about what she did around her. Now the problem is, yesterday, I went to a party and I was quite drunk, so I don't remember much. All I know is she was teasing me A LOT (ie: grabbing my ass all the time, letting me grab hers, hugging me forever, stuff like that), and it eventually got me very confused so I just left and she asked another one of my friend to go talk to me, but thats all I remember. Well this and the conclusion I made with another of my friend while I was walking back home (however I don't remember any of the facts I've based it on): She pretty much didn't care about me and to her, my friendship is pretty much nothing and she used me when I was vulnerable to get what she wanted.
Now I didn't talk to her yet about it, and I don't know how I should act... Should I forget that event since I was drunk (even though all my friends say she was acting like an attention ***** with me). Should I talk to her about it? Let her talk to me about it? Not say **** about it at all?

Any help would be really appreciated
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kings_royalty

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Ignore it, like it never happened. If she brings it up, act like it was no big deal and talk more about the party than what she was doing. If she is an attention wh*re, this will drive her nuts.

Do you have feelings for this girl, or do you just want to bang her? You are looking for something with this girl, but i haven't figured out what yet, fill me in.
 

BannedGod

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Kings_royalty said:
Ignore it, like it never happened. If she brings it up, act like it was no big deal and talk more about the party than what she was doing. If she is an attention wh*re, this will drive her nuts.

Do you have feelings for this girl, or do you just want to bang her? You are looking for something with this girl, but i haven't figured out what yet, fill me in.
None of these, I just consider her to be one of my best friend. I don't have any feelings nor do I want to bang her
 

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Ignore it. You were drunk and have no interest in them. Yet, you are posting a DJ website...
 

Kings_royalty

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BannedGod said:
None of these, I just consider her to be one of my best friend. I don't have any feelings nor do I want to bang her
If that's true, what's with this...All I know is she was teasing me A LOT . If you had no interest, on any level, you wouldn't of cared what she did, unless of course she sparked your interest.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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