Been thinking about why I fail so much since I'd taken a break from pick up. I think a lot of my problems are the girls I'm approaching or talking to aren't attracted to me at all. It would explain a lot, why they don't contact me, the flaking. However I probably have no idea how to attract a woman initially. All the stuff I've read mostly deals with how to increase attraction once it's established (or how not to lose attraction). Does anyone know any threads (or articles) dealing with how to create initial attraction?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I really need to learn how to create initial attraction in women
- Thread starter Kal0051
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
PlaysToWin
Don Juan
I'd say it can be summarised as:
- Look your best (groom, dress well, work out, etc)
- Appear confident
- Be fun
- Establish DHV
- Look your best (groom, dress well, work out, etc)
- Appear confident
- Be fun
- Establish DHV
How do you DHV? I get how to do the other stuff (although I do have to fake confidence sometimes), but DHV has always been unclear to me. I know that it means displaying higher value and I know why it's important. Just don't know how to get to that point.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
One word: confidence!Kal0051 said:Been thinking about why I fail so much since I'd taken a break from pick up. I think a lot of my problems are the girls I'm approaching or talking to aren't attracted to me at all. It would explain a lot, why they don't contact me, the flaking. However I probably have no idea how to attract a woman initially. All the stuff I've read mostly deals with how to increase attraction once it's established (or how not to lose attraction). Does anyone know any threads (or articles) dealing with how to create initial attraction?
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Kal0051 said:How do you DHV? I get how to do the other stuff (although I do have to fake confidence sometimes), but DHV has always been unclear to me. I know that it means displaying higher value and I know why it's important. Just don't know how to get to that point.
Kal: You remind me a lot of my good friend. Without seeing you or knowing you too well; I tell you that my friend is a good looking guy, he's funny and has ambition in life.
HOWEVER, he's akward in social situations and his humor is hard for most girls to get unless they really know him. As a result he also tends to over-analyze and have that "fake confidence" when were out and about.
Its one thing to look the part, but you better damn well be able to act the part too or she'll lose interest in you as quickly as possible.
From reading threads, I think you think about this $hit too much. Sure when you don't have success it becomes hard not to try to figure it out, but you rarely post specific conversations you have with girls or how you initially appraoched and went for the number closed. Without seeing EXACTLY what your doing in your initial meeting, its tough to say where your going wrong.
PIMP
I seems I'm similar to your friend from your description. I think I have posted some approaches and interactions with girl on here (though maybe it was someother site). Haven't been doing too many cold approaches lately, it's been over a month since I've really gone out. Been too busy with exams at the start of December and work since then (I think Xmas has been my only day off in 3 weeks). Not using that as an excuse however, hopefully I'll be able to get out sometime next week. And there's this newly single girl I know that I may practice on (she used to flirt with me a bit when she was in a relationship). Although I will have to watch out with that girl, there's this coke head that's obsessed with her and was waiting for her to be single.Pimp-sicle said:Kal: You remind me a lot of my good friend. Without seeing you or knowing you too well; I tell you that my friend is a good looking guy, he's funny and has ambition in life.
HOWEVER, he's akward in social situations and his humor is hard for most girls to get unless they really know him. As a result he also tends to over-analyze and have that "fake confidence" when were out and about.
Its one thing to look the part, but you better damn well be able to act the part too or she'll lose interest in you as quickly as possible.
From reading threads, I think you think about this $hit too much. Sure when you don't have success it becomes hard not to try to figure it out, but you rarely post specific conversations you have with girls or how you initially appraoched and went for the number closed. Without seeing EXACTLY what your doing in your initial meeting, its tough to say where your going wrong.
PIMP