"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I feel I am unable to be accepted by a group of people. I don't know why. I haven't figured out how to work that aspect. I feel I am more on the side, almost waiting for people to notice me. I don't know what this is a result of. Maybe Idk, not knowing how to make people feel super comfortable around me? Idk.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just act like yourself. Say whatever comes to mind. Don't try to be anyone other than yourself. When you act like yourself and not like you're trying to fit into any mold or group, you will attract the type of people who want to be around you for who you are, and by nature you will feel comfortable with those people.
 
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I feel I am unable to be accepted by a group of people. I don't know why. I haven't figured out how to work that aspect. I feel I am more on the side, almost waiting for people to notice me. I don't know what this is a result of. Maybe Idk, not knowing how to make people feel super comfortable around me? Idk.
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If you feel like you're on the side, waiting for some sign of attention, you probably are 100% right. The second half of your post included the words and phrases "I don't know, Idk, not knowing, Idk", etc. Those words alone show a sign of low confidence. Instead, realize the guy you are: bad ass, fun, down for good times, easy-going, whatever. Don't worry about anything (except maybe illnesses, lol). Better yourself, but don't worry about being shy or your flaws, focus on your strengths. You can do it man. Good luck.
 
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Did you not read Warriors post in the other topic?

Stop wasting everybodies time with your stupid topics.
 
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No, this seems like a bigger problem. Or maybe it's not. I don't know who I am enough to be myself. And it seems like when I have been myself at times, it pushed people away, or something bad happened, or I had too much self doubt. I see other people and wish I could be them. Weird, I know. But this seems like some sort of an identity crisis. Or like I am the middle, not in the front.

I guess I am too worried or anxious.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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