"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I realize another problem I have....

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I feel I am unable to be accepted by a group of people. I don't know why. I haven't figured out how to work that aspect. I feel I am more on the side, almost waiting for people to notice me. I don't know what this is a result of. Maybe Idk, not knowing how to make people feel super comfortable around me? Idk.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just act like yourself. Say whatever comes to mind. Don't try to be anyone other than yourself. When you act like yourself and not like you're trying to fit into any mold or group, you will attract the type of people who want to be around you for who you are, and by nature you will feel comfortable with those people.
 
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I feel I am unable to be accepted by a group of people. I don't know why. I haven't figured out how to work that aspect. I feel I am more on the side, almost waiting for people to notice me. I don't know what this is a result of. Maybe Idk, not knowing how to make people feel super comfortable around me? Idk.
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If you feel like you're on the side, waiting for some sign of attention, you probably are 100% right. The second half of your post included the words and phrases "I don't know, Idk, not knowing, Idk", etc. Those words alone show a sign of low confidence. Instead, realize the guy you are: bad ass, fun, down for good times, easy-going, whatever. Don't worry about anything (except maybe illnesses, lol). Better yourself, but don't worry about being shy or your flaws, focus on your strengths. You can do it man. Good luck.
 
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Did you not read Warriors post in the other topic?

Stop wasting everybodies time with your stupid topics.
 
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No, this seems like a bigger problem. Or maybe it's not. I don't know who I am enough to be myself. And it seems like when I have been myself at times, it pushed people away, or something bad happened, or I had too much self doubt. I see other people and wish I could be them. Weird, I know. But this seems like some sort of an identity crisis. Or like I am the middle, not in the front.

I guess I am too worried or anxious.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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