"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I plan to move to chicago sometime in bear future no life here or alpha male type fri

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I have good friends here but all are betas\losers\dont have a clue about this stuff and im not doing any hobbies or anything that is attracting women nor driving so i want to move chicago can i get help on how do u start fresh if your in new town like make new friends or new hobbies???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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Just go to bartender school, you will make it in somewhere. I'd add some other skills to your arsenal. It would really help if you had some friends there. I have an uncle there that would know bars downtown since that's where he grew up.
 

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Getting an industry job here let alone Bartending is very competitive especially if you have no experience. People make good money so turnover is very low. Good luck...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dgwizdal said:
Getting an industry job here let alone Bartending is very competitive especially if you have no experience. People make good money so turnover is very low. Good luck...
Can he get in as a bouncer quicker while he waits to bartend?

It would get him exposure.
 
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