Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I hope you do play it cool. Don't let a few flirty chicks mess with your head so much that it affects your marriage.5string said:Yep. Sure have. We are going over there again tonight for drinks. I'll update this thread.
I'm going to stay more tuned in on these gals and see if I can recognize any interest that maybe I would not normally see (like what Mrs.5string says).
As tempting as this may be, I'm gonna just play it cool and have fun with it. If anyone has any suggestions regarding this situation, lay em on me.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
5string, it isn't nice to solicit flirtation, especially in front of the wife. I agree that the unsolicited flirtations will work wonders for your LTR, however part of that is being unfazed and uninterested in the attention. You dismiss those little birds, don't throw them breadcrumbs. Refer to ThunderMaverick's current thread about disrespect. Put the shoe on the other foot before you decide to keep walking that path.5string said:Yep. Sure have. We are going over there again tonight for drinks. I'll update this thread.
I'm going to stay more tuned in on these gals and see if I can recognize any interest that maybe I would not normally see (like what Mrs.5string says).
As tempting as this may be, I'm gonna just play it cool and have fun with it. If anyone has any suggestions regarding this situation, lay em on me.
Yea not sure if the title of the thread really fits the content but the idea is right.Scaramouche said:Dear 5String and others,
"I Passed A Test Last Night",OK to the Women for Cris's Sakes, and Men dressed in Girls blouses who in the main responded here.Bully for you,you passed the Beta Test,you can go back to your darning,and reading with Mother,as for you Iqqi,get and do your Old man's washing.....but sorry mate,as a Don Juan you just don't fit the bill.With the passage of years you may well be shafted,and sing a different song,like most of us real DJ's,and please correct me, this is a site for Don Juans.Please read the definitions of this state of being.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.