You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I hope you do play it cool. Don't let a few flirty chicks mess with your head so much that it affects your marriage.5string said:Yep. Sure have. We are going over there again tonight for drinks. I'll update this thread.
I'm going to stay more tuned in on these gals and see if I can recognize any interest that maybe I would not normally see (like what Mrs.5string says).
As tempting as this may be, I'm gonna just play it cool and have fun with it. If anyone has any suggestions regarding this situation, lay em on me.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
5string, it isn't nice to solicit flirtation, especially in front of the wife. I agree that the unsolicited flirtations will work wonders for your LTR, however part of that is being unfazed and uninterested in the attention. You dismiss those little birds, don't throw them breadcrumbs. Refer to ThunderMaverick's current thread about disrespect. Put the shoe on the other foot before you decide to keep walking that path.5string said:Yep. Sure have. We are going over there again tonight for drinks. I'll update this thread.
I'm going to stay more tuned in on these gals and see if I can recognize any interest that maybe I would not normally see (like what Mrs.5string says).
As tempting as this may be, I'm gonna just play it cool and have fun with it. If anyone has any suggestions regarding this situation, lay em on me.
Yea not sure if the title of the thread really fits the content but the idea is right.Scaramouche said:Dear 5String and others,
"I Passed A Test Last Night",OK to the Women for Cris's Sakes, and Men dressed in Girls blouses who in the main responded here.Bully for you,you passed the Beta Test,you can go back to your darning,and reading with Mother,as for you Iqqi,get and do your Old man's washing.....but sorry mate,as a Don Juan you just don't fit the bill.With the passage of years you may well be shafted,and sing a different song,like most of us real DJ's,and please correct me, this is a site for Don Juans.Please read the definitions of this state of being.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.