Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I hope you do play it cool. Don't let a few flirty chicks mess with your head so much that it affects your marriage.5string said:Yep. Sure have. We are going over there again tonight for drinks. I'll update this thread.
I'm going to stay more tuned in on these gals and see if I can recognize any interest that maybe I would not normally see (like what Mrs.5string says).
As tempting as this may be, I'm gonna just play it cool and have fun with it. If anyone has any suggestions regarding this situation, lay em on me.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
5string, it isn't nice to solicit flirtation, especially in front of the wife. I agree that the unsolicited flirtations will work wonders for your LTR, however part of that is being unfazed and uninterested in the attention. You dismiss those little birds, don't throw them breadcrumbs. Refer to ThunderMaverick's current thread about disrespect. Put the shoe on the other foot before you decide to keep walking that path.5string said:Yep. Sure have. We are going over there again tonight for drinks. I'll update this thread.
I'm going to stay more tuned in on these gals and see if I can recognize any interest that maybe I would not normally see (like what Mrs.5string says).
As tempting as this may be, I'm gonna just play it cool and have fun with it. If anyone has any suggestions regarding this situation, lay em on me.
Yea not sure if the title of the thread really fits the content but the idea is right.Scaramouche said:Dear 5String and others,
"I Passed A Test Last Night",OK to the Women for Cris's Sakes, and Men dressed in Girls blouses who in the main responded here.Bully for you,you passed the Beta Test,you can go back to your darning,and reading with Mother,as for you Iqqi,get and do your Old man's washing.....but sorry mate,as a Don Juan you just don't fit the bill.With the passage of years you may well be shafted,and sing a different song,like most of us real DJ's,and please correct me, this is a site for Don Juans.Please read the definitions of this state of being.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.