El Roi
Don Juan
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I wanna get back to responding to challenges because they're opportunities to joke around/amuse myself and others around me rather than viewing a test as a line drawn in the sand to see if I'll pass it. When I see it that way I don't even enjoy passing.
I get "that's how it is..." blah blah, I know. Haha. I'm talking about mindset.
I enjoy unsaid verbal games because they're fun/competitive and opportunities for satire/connection (with people in general, not even just chicks). But when a girl does it that's no longer my gut-level instinct.
Experience, examples, thoughts?
EDIT: I've realized more clearly what my desire is from this post.
What I hope to gain insight on from this post is this specifically: My instinct toward tests is negative, so now I just say words that pass the test. But when I do that it's ingenuine. I don't like that. That tells me there's something wrong with my beliefs/perspective.
I used to take on challenges playfully with joy. That seems to be the proper mode of being in a situation like that.
So for you, do you have any experience, examples, or thoughts on how to overcome that? Have you had to deal with the same thing?
I get "that's how it is..." blah blah, I know. Haha. I'm talking about mindset.
I enjoy unsaid verbal games because they're fun/competitive and opportunities for satire/connection (with people in general, not even just chicks). But when a girl does it that's no longer my gut-level instinct.
Experience, examples, thoughts?
EDIT: I've realized more clearly what my desire is from this post.
What I hope to gain insight on from this post is this specifically: My instinct toward tests is negative, so now I just say words that pass the test. But when I do that it's ingenuine. I don't like that. That tells me there's something wrong with my beliefs/perspective.
I used to take on challenges playfully with joy. That seems to be the proper mode of being in a situation like that.
So for you, do you have any experience, examples, or thoughts on how to overcome that? Have you had to deal with the same thing?
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