"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I only like girls I can't get

wiggadude

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Ever since I can remember I've always been attracted to the girls I know I can't get. In college, several pretty good looking girls wanted me, but I rejected them. If I feel that I can get them, I lose interest.

WTF. How do I fix this???
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Luveno

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"...I know I can't get"

That's your problem right there
 

BLUEox117

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Originally posted by Luveno
"...I know I can't get"

That's your problem right there
to elaborate,

by saying i "know" i cant get them, you are implying that they are better than you, you are acting like a loser, and ruining your chances before u even start the game.
 

wiggadude

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Sorry, I must clarify.

I only like girls where I have ALREADY FOUND OUT that I can't get them.

In most cases, they are not single (LTR), or are not at all my type. i.e. I hate their personality, but I love their imaginary image that I have in my head.
 

Double J

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I know what you're saying. I've been through it too - wanting the unobtainable. But there's nothing really left to do than move on and find a girl that's available man. You don't want to invest your time in someone who can't give you what you seek.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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johnny_chase

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Originally posted by wiggadude
or are not at all my type. i.e. I hate their personality, but I love their imaginary image that I have in my head.
So stop building up imaginary images in your head. If you hate their personality already, what is the problem here? Imaginary image? I'm sorry, but this issue is all about you.

And second, so what if they have bf's, dont matter, are you going to treat them a different way? Like you see one you like and you're like: okay, i'm going to DJ this chick. No.

You DJ every chick, it becomes part of your personality, to become desired by all women you meet.
 

Donald Kaufman

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I don't know that this is true in your case but I've seen guys who become more interested, or who don't lose interest as fast, when they discover a girl is less available.

In many of those cases I think fear is a major part of the problem. Can't screw up what can't be so it remains perfect, and they remain perfectly miserable, but don't have to take responsibility because the women are unavailable.

Casually associating with women who aren't what you are really interested in can alleviate the fear.

Unfortunately, I have seen some of the guys settle way, way, way below their potential and others marry the first girl they try to associate casually with.

Ultimately, if fear is part of the problem the long term answer is to deal with it directly, then try associating with eyes wide open.
 
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