I only like girls I can't get

[wiggadude]

Ever since I can remember I've always been attracted to the girls I know I can't get. In college, several pretty good looking girls wanted me, but I rejected them. If I feel that I can get them, I lose interest.

WTF. How do I fix this???

 

[Luveno]

"...I know I can't get"

That's your problem right there

 

[BLUEox117]

Originally posted by Luveno
"...I know I can't get"

That's your problem right there

to elaborate,

by saying i "know" i cant get them, you are implying that they are better than you, you are acting like a loser, and ruining your chances before u even start the game.

 

[wiggadude]

Sorry, I must clarify.

I only like girls where I have ALREADY FOUND OUT that I can't get them.

In most cases, they are not single (LTR), or are not at all my type. i.e. I hate their personality, but I love their imaginary image that I have in my head.

 

[Double J]

I know what you're saying. I've been through it too - wanting the unobtainable. But there's nothing really left to do than move on and find a girl that's available man. You don't want to invest your time in someone who can't give you what you seek.

 

[johnny_chase]

Originally posted by wiggadude
or are not at all my type. i.e. I hate their personality, but I love their imaginary image that I have in my head.

So stop building up imaginary images in your head. If you hate their personality already, what is the problem here? Imaginary image? I'm sorry, but this issue is all about you.

And second, so what if they have bf's, dont matter, are you going to treat them a different way? Like you see one you like and you're like: okay, i'm going to DJ this chick. No.

You DJ every chick, it becomes part of your personality, to become desired by all women you meet.

 

[Donald Kaufman]

I don't know that this is true in your case but I've seen guys who become more interested, or who don't lose interest as fast, when they discover a girl is less available.

In many of those cases I think fear is a major part of the problem. Can't screw up what can't be so it remains perfect, and they remain perfectly miserable, but don't have to take responsibility because the women are unavailable.

Casually associating with women who aren't what you are really interested in can alleviate the fear.

Unfortunately, I have seen some of the guys settle way, way, way below their potential and others marry the first girl they try to associate casually with.

Ultimately, if fear is part of the problem the long term answer is to deal with it directly, then try associating with eyes wide open.