Well I live with relatives who aren't my birth parents.. I won't say the relationship for confidentiality I'm 19 years old and a few years ago I was heavy into drugs mostly ex and weed.. and per there request I quit but they still call me things like junkie, druggie and call me stupid and **** for brains and it hurts so much.. I've been trying to work on my confidence but how can I be confident when the only family I've ever known thinks ill never be ****. And I can see there disgust when they look at me and it hurts more than any rejection a female could give me. I mean I made a complete 360 I quit smoking weed and using drugs I started working though I don't make enough to just move or I would.. like someone please help me.. I'm lost I feel like a little ***** posting this but..
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i need some inspiration please help me..
- Thread starter cola
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
Good to hear that you've made a change for the better, and stopped the drugs.
Here's what i would do:
1) Have a heart-to-heart conversation with them. Say, "I've stopped doing drugs and moved on, why can't you?"
And if they do not listen..
2) Continue with what you're doing, get some success in your life and in the long run, they should stop bothering you. In the meantime, just be oblivious to what they say. You're better than that.
Here's what i would do:
1) Have a heart-to-heart conversation with them. Say, "I've stopped doing drugs and moved on, why can't you?"
And if they do not listen..
2) Continue with what you're doing, get some success in your life and in the long run, they should stop bothering you. In the meantime, just be oblivious to what they say. You're better than that.
Kevin Feng
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Hey Buddy,
I don't think your problem is even pick up related.
Here's the deal, you need to fix yourself before you start attracting women. Getting your life in order and getting all the pieces together are necessary in order to attract a high quality lady.
Think about it, would you want a mentally screwed up girl?
Anyway, this response wasn't meant to critisize, but I would definitely get this handled before trying to meet women, both for YOUR personal well being as well as the well being of the other party.
You need a strong foundation before you branch out.
-Kevin
I don't think your problem is even pick up related.
Here's the deal, you need to fix yourself before you start attracting women. Getting your life in order and getting all the pieces together are necessary in order to attract a high quality lady.
Think about it, would you want a mentally screwed up girl?
Anyway, this response wasn't meant to critisize, but I would definitely get this handled before trying to meet women, both for YOUR personal well being as well as the well being of the other party.
You need a strong foundation before you branch out.
-Kevin
EvilAgenda
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Well,,I'm proud of you, cola!
Any man who is able to commit to better himself deserves a bloody medal, and my respect!
Stick with it and don't give up,,be the MAN!!! And I will stick with you in betterring myself too! That way we are BOTH doing it!
Any man who is able to commit to better himself deserves a bloody medal, and my respect!
Stick with it and don't give up,,be the MAN!!! And I will stick with you in betterring myself too! That way we are BOTH doing it!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You have done a lot to change your life and that is a great step. It sounds like you know you have potential and are working towards making yourself better. I could understand how it hurts you. If they are not willing to change and stop putting you down then just remember how far you have come and keep looking forward. True confidence comes from inside, so you do not need them to confirm what you already know. You don't need them to confirm that you have unlimited potential. Keep improving yourself and try to treat them well even though they don't do the same to you.
Has anyone in the household ever physically abused you?
Has anyone in the household ever physically abused you?
No physical abuse just verbal but now I realize that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of me not even family one day they'll need me and ill be somewhere in life and ill remember how they acted when I wasn't ****.. thanks guys