Well I live with relatives who aren't my birth parents.. I won't say the relationship for confidentiality I'm 19 years old and a few years ago I was heavy into drugs mostly ex and weed.. and per there request I quit but they still call me things like junkie, druggie and call me stupid and **** for brains and it hurts so much.. I've been trying to work on my confidence but how can I be confident when the only family I've ever known thinks ill never be ****. And I can see there disgust when they look at me and it hurts more than any rejection a female could give me. I mean I made a complete 360 I quit smoking weed and using drugs I started working though I don't make enough to just move or I would.. like someone please help me.. I'm lost I feel like a little ***** posting this but..
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i need some inspiration please help me..
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
Good to hear that you've made a change for the better, and stopped the drugs.
Here's what i would do:
1) Have a heart-to-heart conversation with them. Say, "I've stopped doing drugs and moved on, why can't you?"
And if they do not listen..
2) Continue with what you're doing, get some success in your life and in the long run, they should stop bothering you. In the meantime, just be oblivious to what they say. You're better than that.
Here's what i would do:
1) Have a heart-to-heart conversation with them. Say, "I've stopped doing drugs and moved on, why can't you?"
And if they do not listen..
2) Continue with what you're doing, get some success in your life and in the long run, they should stop bothering you. In the meantime, just be oblivious to what they say. You're better than that.
Kevin Feng
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Hey Buddy,
I don't think your problem is even pick up related.
Here's the deal, you need to fix yourself before you start attracting women. Getting your life in order and getting all the pieces together are necessary in order to attract a high quality lady.
Think about it, would you want a mentally screwed up girl?
Anyway, this response wasn't meant to critisize, but I would definitely get this handled before trying to meet women, both for YOUR personal well being as well as the well being of the other party.
You need a strong foundation before you branch out.
-Kevin
I don't think your problem is even pick up related.
Here's the deal, you need to fix yourself before you start attracting women. Getting your life in order and getting all the pieces together are necessary in order to attract a high quality lady.
Think about it, would you want a mentally screwed up girl?
Anyway, this response wasn't meant to critisize, but I would definitely get this handled before trying to meet women, both for YOUR personal well being as well as the well being of the other party.
You need a strong foundation before you branch out.
-Kevin
EvilAgenda
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Well,,I'm proud of you, cola!
Any man who is able to commit to better himself deserves a bloody medal, and my respect!
Stick with it and don't give up,,be the MAN!!! And I will stick with you in betterring myself too! That way we are BOTH doing it!
Any man who is able to commit to better himself deserves a bloody medal, and my respect!
Stick with it and don't give up,,be the MAN!!! And I will stick with you in betterring myself too! That way we are BOTH doing it!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You have done a lot to change your life and that is a great step. It sounds like you know you have potential and are working towards making yourself better. I could understand how it hurts you. If they are not willing to change and stop putting you down then just remember how far you have come and keep looking forward. True confidence comes from inside, so you do not need them to confirm what you already know. You don't need them to confirm that you have unlimited potential. Keep improving yourself and try to treat them well even though they don't do the same to you.
Has anyone in the household ever physically abused you?
Has anyone in the household ever physically abused you?
No physical abuse just verbal but now I realize that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of me not even family one day they'll need me and ill be somewhere in life and ill remember how they acted when I wasn't ****.. thanks guys