Well I live with relatives who aren't my birth parents.. I won't say the relationship for confidentiality I'm 19 years old and a few years ago I was heavy into drugs mostly ex and weed.. and per there request I quit but they still call me things like junkie, druggie and call me stupid and **** for brains and it hurts so much.. I've been trying to work on my confidence but how can I be confident when the only family I've ever known thinks ill never be ****. And I can see there disgust when they look at me and it hurts more than any rejection a female could give me. I mean I made a complete 360 I quit smoking weed and using drugs I started working though I don't make enough to just move or I would.. like someone please help me.. I'm lost I feel like a little ***** posting this but..
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
i need some inspiration please help me..
- Thread starter cola
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
Good to hear that you've made a change for the better, and stopped the drugs.
Here's what i would do:
1) Have a heart-to-heart conversation with them. Say, "I've stopped doing drugs and moved on, why can't you?"
And if they do not listen..
2) Continue with what you're doing, get some success in your life and in the long run, they should stop bothering you. In the meantime, just be oblivious to what they say. You're better than that.
Here's what i would do:
1) Have a heart-to-heart conversation with them. Say, "I've stopped doing drugs and moved on, why can't you?"
And if they do not listen..
2) Continue with what you're doing, get some success in your life and in the long run, they should stop bothering you. In the meantime, just be oblivious to what they say. You're better than that.
Kevin Feng
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Hey Buddy,
I don't think your problem is even pick up related.
Here's the deal, you need to fix yourself before you start attracting women. Getting your life in order and getting all the pieces together are necessary in order to attract a high quality lady.
Think about it, would you want a mentally screwed up girl?
Anyway, this response wasn't meant to critisize, but I would definitely get this handled before trying to meet women, both for YOUR personal well being as well as the well being of the other party.
You need a strong foundation before you branch out.
-Kevin
I don't think your problem is even pick up related.
Here's the deal, you need to fix yourself before you start attracting women. Getting your life in order and getting all the pieces together are necessary in order to attract a high quality lady.
Think about it, would you want a mentally screwed up girl?
Anyway, this response wasn't meant to critisize, but I would definitely get this handled before trying to meet women, both for YOUR personal well being as well as the well being of the other party.
You need a strong foundation before you branch out.
-Kevin
EvilAgenda
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Well,,I'm proud of you, cola!
Any man who is able to commit to better himself deserves a bloody medal, and my respect!
Stick with it and don't give up,,be the MAN!!! And I will stick with you in betterring myself too! That way we are BOTH doing it!
Any man who is able to commit to better himself deserves a bloody medal, and my respect!
Stick with it and don't give up,,be the MAN!!! And I will stick with you in betterring myself too! That way we are BOTH doing it!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You have done a lot to change your life and that is a great step. It sounds like you know you have potential and are working towards making yourself better. I could understand how it hurts you. If they are not willing to change and stop putting you down then just remember how far you have come and keep looking forward. True confidence comes from inside, so you do not need them to confirm what you already know. You don't need them to confirm that you have unlimited potential. Keep improving yourself and try to treat them well even though they don't do the same to you.
Has anyone in the household ever physically abused you?
Has anyone in the household ever physically abused you?
No physical abuse just verbal but now I realize that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of me not even family one day they'll need me and ill be somewhere in life and ill remember how they acted when I wasn't ****.. thanks guys