"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I need motivation......
- Thread starter Demon
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
pilot0001
Senior Don Juan
For me, working out is a good place to start if I need to pick my life up. It raises my self esteem high enough to be more strict with my diet. Then everything else seems to follow suite. Even if for just a short time I find it's worth it.
MagiKMaK
Don Juan
(do a search on google groups or browse these forums) and if you don't, just take a caffeine pill or two or drink 2-4 cups of coffee... I'm sure you'll find the motivation you need, you'll be itching to expel energy in anyway possible.enkai
Senior Don Juan
Just do it!
The most important thing, I think, is to be patient and persistent. There are times when I just got fed up things and the enthusiasm withered for a moment. But you have to persist, or just force yourself to make the initial move and take that step--
Just do it and keep going..eventually you will build momentum. Keep pushing and remember why you are doing what you are and what you want to achieve.
If you follow your feelings, it will bring you down. Force yourself.
It has to come from within...no amount of motivational comments can make a real difference to your desire...you've heard the saying "you can only lead a horse to water.."
Anakin
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SHUT THE PHUCK UP! Dorks like you make me sick. You sound like a phucking woman. is it that time of the month? I can tell youre the type of pencil dic geek i see at the gym who is always standing around the universal machine doing half reps with that lame ass bench press. After that you go and talk to your friend for 10 minutes. But you do look cool with your oversized leather weight lifting belt and your padded leather "hardgainer" gloves and your awesome wrist wraps that you even use when you bench press, dork!
Just stop lifting all together and start jogging. You will always be a pvssy, PVSSY!
Drifter
Senior Don Juan
What the hell Vioriod.... you are contributing to the reason this site has gone to hell.
downing on him wont make him feel better. Try giving him some advice instead of flaming him, like some others I see did....
that perfectionist advice, yeah that applies to me definately.
good advice man.
xyzzy
Senior Don Juan
Some people need a kick in the pants to get off their ass and do something in their lives. Demon sounds like such a pussy... whaaaaah I wanna be big but Im too lazy to spend some time doing it.
Its like in the Simpsons.... "You know son if its too hard to learn how to do, its not worth doing".
Anyway Demon, if what you post is real and youre not just trying to be an attention wh0re, just take a few weeks off but make it a mindset to get back on track. With 1690 posts you definitely need to get out and say hello to Mr. big shining yellow ball in the sky every once in a while.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
My financial situation has some hiccups. Once those are out, I can finally get a gym membership, but right now, motivation to do anything is down the lou. I don't even feel like sleeping but I do it anyway since I have nothing else to do.
willo
Don Juan
Do you have a job dude?
What do you do in the week?
It sounds like you just sit at home all week, bored wallowing in self pity. A hint from someone who has been a bum, get a job, go to school and do something constructive. These 3 things do wonders for self confidence and energy levels. I have more energy now doing 125% normal credit load at university, working 3 jobs all the while maintaining some kind of social life.
If only someone had told me a couple of years ago; but i guess these things are better found out through experience.
There's a good quote I saw in the gym that goes something like this, "The past cannot be changed but the future is unknown. Now is a gift which is why it's called the present." The future is unknown... what will happen at this girl's house is unknown. She's a good friend of mine and has been for quite awhile. I know of all that talk about friends zone, etc., but it was me that told her "we're just friends." That gives me the power to change it.
Oh, I don't wallow in self-pity. I do stumble through it quite a bit. I told my best friend that he's not a friend anymore when I was extremely drunk. He told me that he will always call me his friend even if I don't think of him the same way. I have to apologize but I'm still dwelling on it.
I won't be when I apologize though.