"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LuisGarcia10

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it's not a relationship really is it?
I'm sorry but this is just absolutely ridiculous. You've met her once, unless I'm mis-reading it?
I don't care how many millions of skype messages you've sent her, it is not a substitute for talking in real life to someone.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yes. you're right luisgarcia10. i had a classic case of Ted Mosby syndrome from the show How I Met Your Mother when he first met Robin. Like I said, I feel infinitely more clear headed than I did last night and can see the numerous mistakes I was making. I've been thinking to myself this morning that I made all of the mistakes I would have warned anyone else against making. It's a little bit funny. More pathetic I think though.

So for any of you out there who like Lifetime movies. I hope you enjoyed this.
 

LuisGarcia10

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Honestly, I've been there. Admitedly I have never gone as far as to think I was in love, but I've had feelings that when you describe them to friends are written off as ridiculous.
Not mocking you at all, it's just there's no point in even bothering to talk about how to save this paticular scenario, when the logistics of the whole thing just make it an absolute waste of time.
If you're using online dating then do what I do about put a 25 mile distance limit on the searches!
 

DonGorgon

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The fantasy is over for her..lol... she has other men where she lives and you are just an outside guy dont take her more seriously then she takes you..

and as we always say go get some now women ... women only have all this power cause they are always getting new men,..
 

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Iceberg said:
Well, I'm sure someone out there read your advice and appreciated it. Even if this guy is faking it.
Thank you, kind sir.

Atom
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ebracer05 said:
I tried to take everything Atom Smasher and the rest of you said to heart last night. Particularly about oneitis, confidence, being the man, leading, giving up my power, ect. I'm sure I didn't do everything right last night, but I must have done enough right. I got the relationship back last night and feel like I have a much clearer head about things. We'll see where it goes from here. But its time to do things differently. Thanks so much for your help.
Thank god you got the relationship back.

I wonder if you'll return with new tales of struggle with your 21 year old, med school grad girlfriend.

"She was performing brain surgery on a man. And now she says she's in love with him. What do I do?!?!?"
 
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