"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LuisGarcia10

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it's not a relationship really is it?
I'm sorry but this is just absolutely ridiculous. You've met her once, unless I'm mis-reading it?
I don't care how many millions of skype messages you've sent her, it is not a substitute for talking in real life to someone.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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yes. you're right luisgarcia10. i had a classic case of Ted Mosby syndrome from the show How I Met Your Mother when he first met Robin. Like I said, I feel infinitely more clear headed than I did last night and can see the numerous mistakes I was making. I've been thinking to myself this morning that I made all of the mistakes I would have warned anyone else against making. It's a little bit funny. More pathetic I think though.

So for any of you out there who like Lifetime movies. I hope you enjoyed this.
 

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Honestly, I've been there. Admitedly I have never gone as far as to think I was in love, but I've had feelings that when you describe them to friends are written off as ridiculous.
Not mocking you at all, it's just there's no point in even bothering to talk about how to save this paticular scenario, when the logistics of the whole thing just make it an absolute waste of time.
If you're using online dating then do what I do about put a 25 mile distance limit on the searches!
 

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The fantasy is over for her..lol... she has other men where she lives and you are just an outside guy dont take her more seriously then she takes you..

and as we always say go get some now women ... women only have all this power cause they are always getting new men,..
 

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Iceberg said:
Well, I'm sure someone out there read your advice and appreciated it. Even if this guy is faking it.
Thank you, kind sir.

Atom
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ebracer05 said:
I tried to take everything Atom Smasher and the rest of you said to heart last night. Particularly about oneitis, confidence, being the man, leading, giving up my power, ect. I'm sure I didn't do everything right last night, but I must have done enough right. I got the relationship back last night and feel like I have a much clearer head about things. We'll see where it goes from here. But its time to do things differently. Thanks so much for your help.
Thank god you got the relationship back.

I wonder if you'll return with new tales of struggle with your 21 year old, med school grad girlfriend.

"She was performing brain surgery on a man. And now she says she's in love with him. What do I do?!?!?"
 
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