"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i need help guys

a-rookie

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I find this forum interesting.
I like someone at where I work.
I known her for 1yr 1/2 but as a co-worker, never really interacted , she has guy friends ( co workers).
I never really noticed her until a friend visiting me noticed her cute.
I kindah started liking her since she is the best of the group where we work.
(5 wks ago).
We went on a trip recently to miami as a field trip 2wks ago.
I tried approaching her and she would avoid eye contact or being around me.
in the whole trip.
We went to a club and i asked her to dance since she was siitng while all of cooworkers were having fun, and she said no.,She sat the whole time.
I see her everyday mon. -fri . I give her space, so i won't be in her face.

I don't understand her, I want to try to challenge myself .

I am bit confused since in 8 months she will be going back to her hometown for good.
the cocowrkers are getting together again on wednesday night I know she will be there.

i wouldn't want to let this pass without trying , guys please help me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ValleyDJing

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Dude, you asked her to dance and she said no. She's probably not interested. Forget about her. There's plenty more fish in the sea. If she tries to initiate contact with you...punch her in the face. jp. The thought was just funny to me and I felt like typing it. If she tries to initiate contact with you then we can reevaluate. And I'm talking about REAL contact, not just some stupid bulls.hit offhand comment. I'm talking if she starts flirting with you or something. Got it?
 

a-rookie

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I 've been wating for her to talk to me, she does but very limited and short.
more work related. I try to keep eye contact and firm tone, polite when this happens. A friend of mine who knows her better told me that she is immature and stupid.
How should I hold my position with her ?
 
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