"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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what's the best way to introduce your gf to a group of people, including some guy friends and totally shutting down their game towards her from the start.

i know a lot of guys that flirt with other's gf's and try building attraction, i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tryst type said:
what's the best way to introduce your gf to a group of people, including some guy friends and totally shutting down their game towards her from the start.
Let's see: fear of loss.This is at the core with this mindset, not so good if you want more than to shut down "your friend".


i know a lot of guys that flirt with other's gf's and try building attraction
Just a thought: Probably they are having fun and not trying to build anything.

i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.
Living in reaction, not good. Probably, she will feel how hard you try to "get go shut them down" them = your 'guy' friends

Don't worry too much about this and give her freedom. If someone else hooks up with her because she likes him, so what? Go and meet another 10. If she hooks up with him in your presence, it's obvious that your relationship is not really what you think it is.
 

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I agree with Darkme.
However its not probable you will change your behavior and your mindset so quickly. It takes time to form the right mindset. For now you can use some techniques like AMOGing. You can also tell the girl crap about the other guys like one of them always gets dumped for being too needy, or one has personality issues, another one is a stalker. Any bad qualities you can think of. You wouldnt believe how consistently self-fulfilling prophecies work.
 

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i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.

The Alpha way is to not worry about it. Your girl will be able to sense your insecurity, so do what you can to chill out and learn to not care. Worrying about these things is counter-productive.

Why are you worried that she will leave you? Honestly, you have to get over that. You should have the mental frame that she is the one lucky to be with you, and if she messes around with anyone else, you'll laugh at her for being so foolish while you go fvck a couple of other girls. Your gf should know that you have options and that she has to be on good behavior to keep you. Right now it sounds like the opposite - she has options, and you are trying to make sure you keep her. Turn that around.
 

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darkme_legendary said:
Let's see: fear of loss.This is at the core with this mindset, not so good if you want more than to shut down "your friend".



Just a thought: Probably they are having fun and not trying to build anything.


Living in reaction, not good. Probably, she will feel how hard you try to "get go shut them down" them = your 'guy' friends

Don't worry too much about this and give her freedom. If someone else hooks up with her because she likes him, so what? Go and meet another 10. If she hooks up with him in your presence, it's obvious that your relationship is not really what you think it is.
The best ****ing advice that could have been given in reply to the OP.

I don't understand what's so tough about introducing your girl to your friends. It's a simple introduction, this is my girlfriend ____ and hopefully your boys are normal enough to introduce themselves too.

You can't "block" other dudes from hitting on your girlfriend. Your girl is with you for a reason (hopefully). Don't make her think twice by showing your insecurities. Work on yourself as an individual and the rest will follow. The "prevent" move never works.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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