"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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what's the best way to introduce your gf to a group of people, including some guy friends and totally shutting down their game towards her from the start.

i know a lot of guys that flirt with other's gf's and try building attraction, i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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tryst type said:
what's the best way to introduce your gf to a group of people, including some guy friends and totally shutting down their game towards her from the start.
Let's see: fear of loss.This is at the core with this mindset, not so good if you want more than to shut down "your friend".


i know a lot of guys that flirt with other's gf's and try building attraction
Just a thought: Probably they are having fun and not trying to build anything.

i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.
Living in reaction, not good. Probably, she will feel how hard you try to "get go shut them down" them = your 'guy' friends

Don't worry too much about this and give her freedom. If someone else hooks up with her because she likes him, so what? Go and meet another 10. If she hooks up with him in your presence, it's obvious that your relationship is not really what you think it is.
 

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I agree with Darkme.
However its not probable you will change your behavior and your mindset so quickly. It takes time to form the right mindset. For now you can use some techniques like AMOGing. You can also tell the girl crap about the other guys like one of them always gets dumped for being too needy, or one has personality issues, another one is a stalker. Any bad qualities you can think of. You wouldnt believe how consistently self-fulfilling prophecies work.
 

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i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.

The Alpha way is to not worry about it. Your girl will be able to sense your insecurity, so do what you can to chill out and learn to not care. Worrying about these things is counter-productive.

Why are you worried that she will leave you? Honestly, you have to get over that. You should have the mental frame that she is the one lucky to be with you, and if she messes around with anyone else, you'll laugh at her for being so foolish while you go fvck a couple of other girls. Your gf should know that you have options and that she has to be on good behavior to keep you. Right now it sounds like the opposite - she has options, and you are trying to make sure you keep her. Turn that around.
 

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darkme_legendary said:
Let's see: fear of loss.This is at the core with this mindset, not so good if you want more than to shut down "your friend".



Just a thought: Probably they are having fun and not trying to build anything.


Living in reaction, not good. Probably, she will feel how hard you try to "get go shut them down" them = your 'guy' friends

Don't worry too much about this and give her freedom. If someone else hooks up with her because she likes him, so what? Go and meet another 10. If she hooks up with him in your presence, it's obvious that your relationship is not really what you think it is.
The best ****ing advice that could have been given in reply to the OP.

I don't understand what's so tough about introducing your girl to your friends. It's a simple introduction, this is my girlfriend ____ and hopefully your boys are normal enough to introduce themselves too.

You can't "block" other dudes from hitting on your girlfriend. Your girl is with you for a reason (hopefully). Don't make her think twice by showing your insecurities. Work on yourself as an individual and the rest will follow. The "prevent" move never works.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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