"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what's the best way to introduce your gf to a group of people, including some guy friends and totally shutting down their game towards her from the start.

i know a lot of guys that flirt with other's gf's and try building attraction, i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tryst type said:
what's the best way to introduce your gf to a group of people, including some guy friends and totally shutting down their game towards her from the start.
Let's see: fear of loss.This is at the core with this mindset, not so good if you want more than to shut down "your friend".


i know a lot of guys that flirt with other's gf's and try building attraction
Just a thought: Probably they are having fun and not trying to build anything.

i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.
Living in reaction, not good. Probably, she will feel how hard you try to "get go shut them down" them = your 'guy' friends

Don't worry too much about this and give her freedom. If someone else hooks up with her because she likes him, so what? Go and meet another 10. If she hooks up with him in your presence, it's obvious that your relationship is not really what you think it is.
 

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I agree with Darkme.
However its not probable you will change your behavior and your mindset so quickly. It takes time to form the right mindset. For now you can use some techniques like AMOGing. You can also tell the girl crap about the other guys like one of them always gets dumped for being too needy, or one has personality issues, another one is a stalker. Any bad qualities you can think of. You wouldnt believe how consistently self-fulfilling prophecies work.
 

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i want to from the get-go shut them down so they know not to try anything and have my gf see them as beta compared to me.

The Alpha way is to not worry about it. Your girl will be able to sense your insecurity, so do what you can to chill out and learn to not care. Worrying about these things is counter-productive.

Why are you worried that she will leave you? Honestly, you have to get over that. You should have the mental frame that she is the one lucky to be with you, and if she messes around with anyone else, you'll laugh at her for being so foolish while you go fvck a couple of other girls. Your gf should know that you have options and that she has to be on good behavior to keep you. Right now it sounds like the opposite - she has options, and you are trying to make sure you keep her. Turn that around.
 

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darkme_legendary said:
Let's see: fear of loss.This is at the core with this mindset, not so good if you want more than to shut down "your friend".



Just a thought: Probably they are having fun and not trying to build anything.


Living in reaction, not good. Probably, she will feel how hard you try to "get go shut them down" them = your 'guy' friends

Don't worry too much about this and give her freedom. If someone else hooks up with her because she likes him, so what? Go and meet another 10. If she hooks up with him in your presence, it's obvious that your relationship is not really what you think it is.
The best ****ing advice that could have been given in reply to the OP.

I don't understand what's so tough about introducing your girl to your friends. It's a simple introduction, this is my girlfriend ____ and hopefully your boys are normal enough to introduce themselves too.

You can't "block" other dudes from hitting on your girlfriend. Your girl is with you for a reason (hopefully). Don't make her think twice by showing your insecurities. Work on yourself as an individual and the rest will follow. The "prevent" move never works.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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