"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i need a group of friends

we all eat food

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before i persue my goal of being a Don Juan, i need some friends to chill wit. I dont have a group but i have friend from my classes and from different groups and i feel akward asking a kid to hang out if he already hangs out with his crew. I do Chorus and Wrestling and i have made some friends there but yet the akwardness kicks in and i think this mostly has to do with low self asteem. So before i become a DJ, thats i want, and if you guys can get me some tips, then i will be forever and ever grateful.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First of all, you don't need to have a group of friends to start your voyage to become a DJ. But to get you started, you need to work on being charismatic around people. Charisma will take you a long long way! Charisma isn't something that we can teach, it takes a bit of practice to be charismatic. One of the main ingredients to charisma is confidence. If you exude an aura of confidence, you will become more popular. Don't be TOO over confident, or else you'll look like a prick jack @ss. Just believe in yourself and things should run smoothly. Learn the difference on how to communicate between guys than girls. I'm assuming that your straight and you just want guys to be your friends that you chill with. I'm also assuming that you want girls to be attracted to you as more than a friend. You simply have to differentiate how you communicate with each of those two groups. To make a guy as a friend, you just have to be cool to be around. Being funny helps out a lot when it comes to making good guy friends. On the other-hand, girls. You have to be really confident/****y. When your confident and sure of yourself it displays strength to a womans subconcious and that turns her on. But, to not look like some ****y jerk, you need to add humor to your ****y attitude (****y and funny). You'll also have to learn how to be unpredictable, witty, and challenging. Women find those qualities attractive in a male because most males act predictable and weak....But if you act like the way a male should act it displays a strong, thrilling, and unpredictable man, which equals fun and interesting. Don't rush it because becoming a "DJ" all comes with time and effort.:cool:
 
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we all eat food

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Originally posted by DJ4Real
First of all, you don't need to have a group of friends to start your voyage to become a DJ. But to get you started, you need to work on being charismatic around people. Charisma will take you a long long way! Charisma isn't something that we can teach, it takes a bit of practice to be charismatic. One of the main ingredients to charisma is confidence. If you exude an aura of confidence, you will become more popular. Don't be TOO over confident, or else you'll look like a prick jack @ss. Just believe in yourself and things should run smoothly. Learn the difference on how to communicate between guys than girls. I'm assuming that your straight and you just want guys to be your friends that you chill with. I'm also assuming that you want girls to be attracted to you as more than a friend. You simply have to differentiate how you communicate with each of those two groups. To make a guy as a friend, you just have to be cool to be around. Being funny helps out a lot when it comes to making good guy friends. On the other-hand, girls. You have to be really confident/****y. When your confident and sure of yourself it displays strength to a womans subconcious and that turns her on. But, to not look like some ****y jerk, you need to add humor to your ****y attitude (****y and funny). You'll also have to learn how to be unpredictable, witty, and challenging. Women find those qualities attractive in a male because most males because it displays a strong, thrilling, and unpredictable man, which equals fun and interesting. Don't rush it because becoming a "DJ" all comes with time and effort.:cool:
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Find people you like, and start meetong them all.

I went to a football game recently, and met a ton of people, just through this one guy, and now, I have a group of friends.
 

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Well, don't feel awkward. Just make the transition with confidence.:cool:
 
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