"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i need a group of friends

we all eat food

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before i persue my goal of being a Don Juan, i need some friends to chill wit. I dont have a group but i have friend from my classes and from different groups and i feel akward asking a kid to hang out if he already hangs out with his crew. I do Chorus and Wrestling and i have made some friends there but yet the akwardness kicks in and i think this mostly has to do with low self asteem. So before i become a DJ, thats i want, and if you guys can get me some tips, then i will be forever and ever grateful.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ4Real

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First of all, you don't need to have a group of friends to start your voyage to become a DJ. But to get you started, you need to work on being charismatic around people. Charisma will take you a long long way! Charisma isn't something that we can teach, it takes a bit of practice to be charismatic. One of the main ingredients to charisma is confidence. If you exude an aura of confidence, you will become more popular. Don't be TOO over confident, or else you'll look like a prick jack @ss. Just believe in yourself and things should run smoothly. Learn the difference on how to communicate between guys than girls. I'm assuming that your straight and you just want guys to be your friends that you chill with. I'm also assuming that you want girls to be attracted to you as more than a friend. You simply have to differentiate how you communicate with each of those two groups. To make a guy as a friend, you just have to be cool to be around. Being funny helps out a lot when it comes to making good guy friends. On the other-hand, girls. You have to be really confident/****y. When your confident and sure of yourself it displays strength to a womans subconcious and that turns her on. But, to not look like some ****y jerk, you need to add humor to your ****y attitude (****y and funny). You'll also have to learn how to be unpredictable, witty, and challenging. Women find those qualities attractive in a male because most males act predictable and weak....But if you act like the way a male should act it displays a strong, thrilling, and unpredictable man, which equals fun and interesting. Don't rush it because becoming a "DJ" all comes with time and effort.:cool:
 
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we all eat food

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Originally posted by DJ4Real
First of all, you don't need to have a group of friends to start your voyage to become a DJ. But to get you started, you need to work on being charismatic around people. Charisma will take you a long long way! Charisma isn't something that we can teach, it takes a bit of practice to be charismatic. One of the main ingredients to charisma is confidence. If you exude an aura of confidence, you will become more popular. Don't be TOO over confident, or else you'll look like a prick jack @ss. Just believe in yourself and things should run smoothly. Learn the difference on how to communicate between guys than girls. I'm assuming that your straight and you just want guys to be your friends that you chill with. I'm also assuming that you want girls to be attracted to you as more than a friend. You simply have to differentiate how you communicate with each of those two groups. To make a guy as a friend, you just have to be cool to be around. Being funny helps out a lot when it comes to making good guy friends. On the other-hand, girls. You have to be really confident/****y. When your confident and sure of yourself it displays strength to a womans subconcious and that turns her on. But, to not look like some ****y jerk, you need to add humor to your ****y attitude (****y and funny). You'll also have to learn how to be unpredictable, witty, and challenging. Women find those qualities attractive in a male because most males because it displays a strong, thrilling, and unpredictable man, which equals fun and interesting. Don't rush it because becoming a "DJ" all comes with time and effort.:cool:
ylu \\\\
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Find people you like, and start meetong them all.

I went to a football game recently, and met a ton of people, just through this one guy, and now, I have a group of friends.
 

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Well, don't feel awkward. Just make the transition with confidence.:cool:
 
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