"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i need a group of friends

we all eat food

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before i persue my goal of being a Don Juan, i need some friends to chill wit. I dont have a group but i have friend from my classes and from different groups and i feel akward asking a kid to hang out if he already hangs out with his crew. I do Chorus and Wrestling and i have made some friends there but yet the akwardness kicks in and i think this mostly has to do with low self asteem. So before i become a DJ, thats i want, and if you guys can get me some tips, then i will be forever and ever grateful.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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First of all, you don't need to have a group of friends to start your voyage to become a DJ. But to get you started, you need to work on being charismatic around people. Charisma will take you a long long way! Charisma isn't something that we can teach, it takes a bit of practice to be charismatic. One of the main ingredients to charisma is confidence. If you exude an aura of confidence, you will become more popular. Don't be TOO over confident, or else you'll look like a prick jack @ss. Just believe in yourself and things should run smoothly. Learn the difference on how to communicate between guys than girls. I'm assuming that your straight and you just want guys to be your friends that you chill with. I'm also assuming that you want girls to be attracted to you as more than a friend. You simply have to differentiate how you communicate with each of those two groups. To make a guy as a friend, you just have to be cool to be around. Being funny helps out a lot when it comes to making good guy friends. On the other-hand, girls. You have to be really confident/****y. When your confident and sure of yourself it displays strength to a womans subconcious and that turns her on. But, to not look like some ****y jerk, you need to add humor to your ****y attitude (****y and funny). You'll also have to learn how to be unpredictable, witty, and challenging. Women find those qualities attractive in a male because most males act predictable and weak....But if you act like the way a male should act it displays a strong, thrilling, and unpredictable man, which equals fun and interesting. Don't rush it because becoming a "DJ" all comes with time and effort.:cool:
 
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Originally posted by DJ4Real
First of all, you don't need to have a group of friends to start your voyage to become a DJ. But to get you started, you need to work on being charismatic around people. Charisma will take you a long long way! Charisma isn't something that we can teach, it takes a bit of practice to be charismatic. One of the main ingredients to charisma is confidence. If you exude an aura of confidence, you will become more popular. Don't be TOO over confident, or else you'll look like a prick jack @ss. Just believe in yourself and things should run smoothly. Learn the difference on how to communicate between guys than girls. I'm assuming that your straight and you just want guys to be your friends that you chill with. I'm also assuming that you want girls to be attracted to you as more than a friend. You simply have to differentiate how you communicate with each of those two groups. To make a guy as a friend, you just have to be cool to be around. Being funny helps out a lot when it comes to making good guy friends. On the other-hand, girls. You have to be really confident/****y. When your confident and sure of yourself it displays strength to a womans subconcious and that turns her on. But, to not look like some ****y jerk, you need to add humor to your ****y attitude (****y and funny). You'll also have to learn how to be unpredictable, witty, and challenging. Women find those qualities attractive in a male because most males because it displays a strong, thrilling, and unpredictable man, which equals fun and interesting. Don't rush it because becoming a "DJ" all comes with time and effort.:cool:
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Find people you like, and start meetong them all.

I went to a football game recently, and met a ton of people, just through this one guy, and now, I have a group of friends.
 

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Well, don't feel awkward. Just make the transition with confidence.:cool:
 
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