Will900
Don Juan
I have been looking for a GF for ages i just cant find the right girl. its hurts deep down. someone come up with some ideas for me. Cheers!!!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I need a girlfriend help!!!!
- Thread starter Will900
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
You are pathetic... but you came to the right place..
Please give us more information...
Please give us more information...
ShizamDaMan
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If you can't love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to do so?
Think long and hard about this, and get back to us. Like Mac said, you came to the right place.
Think long and hard about this, and get back to us. Like Mac said, you came to the right place.
stalluproar
Senior Don Juan
Maybe you looking for a girlfriend is sending detremental body language to the female.
Desdinova
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Reasons why having a girlfriend is relevant to your existance:
- You cannot breathe without a girlfriend
- You require a girlfriend to eat
- You cannot ejaculate without a girlfriend
- You cannot get a job without a girlfriend
- You cannot have a place to live without a girlfriend
- You cannot have hobbies without a girlfriend
Does all of the above makes sense?
Didn't think so.
There is no logical reason why you NEED a girlfriend. However, a woman can be a challenging and even rewarding addition to your life, which can also be said of buying a car.
Learn to live without a woman instead of basing your existance of being with a woman. A woman is a "perk" rather than a necessity.
- You cannot breathe without a girlfriend
- You require a girlfriend to eat
- You cannot ejaculate without a girlfriend
- You cannot get a job without a girlfriend
- You cannot have a place to live without a girlfriend
- You cannot have hobbies without a girlfriend
Does all of the above makes sense?
Didn't think so.
There is no logical reason why you NEED a girlfriend. However, a woman can be a challenging and even rewarding addition to your life, which can also be said of buying a car.
Learn to live without a woman instead of basing your existance of being with a woman. A woman is a "perk" rather than a necessity.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
this is gay
NewMan
Master Don Juan
You want mine?
She's free of charge.
She's free of charge.
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
Hit the DJ bible and get readin' dude. There is much work to be done.
belividere
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You'll probably find one and then come back on here two months later saying that you NEED to be single again.
sexual_intellectual
Don Juan
Will,
You should make sure you're meeting new girls all the time. Take up a hobby that will facilitate this.
You should make sure you're becoming better around women. Try and make at least one geniune female friend, hang out with her sometimes, and just chill out around her.
Work on your weaknesses, the fewer you have, the more women will wanna get with you.
One more thing - understand this: the more you feel that you need a girlfriend, the less likely you are to get one. Your neediness = unnecessary pressure on the relationship.
You should make sure you're meeting new girls all the time. Take up a hobby that will facilitate this.
You should make sure you're becoming better around women. Try and make at least one geniune female friend, hang out with her sometimes, and just chill out around her.
Work on your weaknesses, the fewer you have, the more women will wanna get with you.
One more thing - understand this: the more you feel that you need a girlfriend, the less likely you are to get one. Your neediness = unnecessary pressure on the relationship.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
cave dweller
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girl?
Will,
How old are you?
Tell us a few things about yourself?
ie:
work?
hobbies?
what you do in your spare time?
ect.......
cave dweller
Will,
How old are you?
Tell us a few things about yourself?
ie:
work?
hobbies?
what you do in your spare time?
ect.......
cave dweller
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Sexual's right. Sounds like you're giving off neediness, bigstyle.
Part of the way you change your body language and general behaviour, is to have a different mindset.
On here you will find repeated many many times that you must feel that you DON'T need a women to feel good, this is healthy and right.
Of course the paradox then kicks in, which is that you'll suddenly find female interest.
I recommend a book by susan jeffers called 'dare to connect'. Some people here will feel this is a bit too girlie psyco pop for SS, but I think you would benefit from it's ideas and exercises.
Part of the way you change your body language and general behaviour, is to have a different mindset.
On here you will find repeated many many times that you must feel that you DON'T need a women to feel good, this is healthy and right.
Of course the paradox then kicks in, which is that you'll suddenly find female interest.
I recommend a book by susan jeffers called 'dare to connect'. Some people here will feel this is a bit too girlie psyco pop for SS, but I think you would benefit from it's ideas and exercises.
Take the NEED out your statement and replace it with
I'd PREFER a girlfriend in my life.
Any women in your life at the moment ie friends etc, are sensing on this neediness without you even knowing it.
And this neediness my friend is the exact thing limitng you from having any women you want.
I'd PREFER a girlfriend in my life.
Any women in your life at the moment ie friends etc, are sensing on this neediness without you even knowing it.
And this neediness my friend is the exact thing limitng you from having any women you want.
Blue Phoenix
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You need a girlfriend and I need a car!
At least a car is more useful, uh?
At least a car is more useful, uh?
Amen!
diablo
Master Don Juan
Idea #1: Read the DJB.
Idea #2: Read the DJB.
Idea #3: Apply your new knowledge.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.