Will900
Don Juan
I have been looking for a GF for ages i just cant find the right girl. its hurts deep down. someone come up with some ideas for me. Cheers!!!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I need a girlfriend help!!!!
- Thread starter Will900
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
You are pathetic... but you came to the right place..
Please give us more information...
Please give us more information...
ShizamDaMan
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If you can't love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to do so?
Think long and hard about this, and get back to us. Like Mac said, you came to the right place.
Think long and hard about this, and get back to us. Like Mac said, you came to the right place.
stalluproar
Senior Don Juan
Maybe you looking for a girlfriend is sending detremental body language to the female.
Desdinova
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Reasons why having a girlfriend is relevant to your existance:
- You cannot breathe without a girlfriend
- You require a girlfriend to eat
- You cannot ejaculate without a girlfriend
- You cannot get a job without a girlfriend
- You cannot have a place to live without a girlfriend
- You cannot have hobbies without a girlfriend
Does all of the above makes sense?
Didn't think so.
There is no logical reason why you NEED a girlfriend. However, a woman can be a challenging and even rewarding addition to your life, which can also be said of buying a car.
Learn to live without a woman instead of basing your existance of being with a woman. A woman is a "perk" rather than a necessity.
- You cannot breathe without a girlfriend
- You require a girlfriend to eat
- You cannot ejaculate without a girlfriend
- You cannot get a job without a girlfriend
- You cannot have a place to live without a girlfriend
- You cannot have hobbies without a girlfriend
Does all of the above makes sense?
Didn't think so.
There is no logical reason why you NEED a girlfriend. However, a woman can be a challenging and even rewarding addition to your life, which can also be said of buying a car.
Learn to live without a woman instead of basing your existance of being with a woman. A woman is a "perk" rather than a necessity.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
this is gay
NewMan
Master Don Juan
You want mine?
She's free of charge.
She's free of charge.
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
Hit the DJ bible and get readin' dude. There is much work to be done.
belividere
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You'll probably find one and then come back on here two months later saying that you NEED to be single again.
sexual_intellectual
Don Juan
Will,
You should make sure you're meeting new girls all the time. Take up a hobby that will facilitate this.
You should make sure you're becoming better around women. Try and make at least one geniune female friend, hang out with her sometimes, and just chill out around her.
Work on your weaknesses, the fewer you have, the more women will wanna get with you.
One more thing - understand this: the more you feel that you need a girlfriend, the less likely you are to get one. Your neediness = unnecessary pressure on the relationship.
You should make sure you're meeting new girls all the time. Take up a hobby that will facilitate this.
You should make sure you're becoming better around women. Try and make at least one geniune female friend, hang out with her sometimes, and just chill out around her.
Work on your weaknesses, the fewer you have, the more women will wanna get with you.
One more thing - understand this: the more you feel that you need a girlfriend, the less likely you are to get one. Your neediness = unnecessary pressure on the relationship.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
cave dweller
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girl?
Will,
How old are you?
Tell us a few things about yourself?
ie:
work?
hobbies?
what you do in your spare time?
ect.......
cave dweller
Will,
How old are you?
Tell us a few things about yourself?
ie:
work?
hobbies?
what you do in your spare time?
ect.......
cave dweller
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Sexual's right. Sounds like you're giving off neediness, bigstyle.
Part of the way you change your body language and general behaviour, is to have a different mindset.
On here you will find repeated many many times that you must feel that you DON'T need a women to feel good, this is healthy and right.
Of course the paradox then kicks in, which is that you'll suddenly find female interest.
I recommend a book by susan jeffers called 'dare to connect'. Some people here will feel this is a bit too girlie psyco pop for SS, but I think you would benefit from it's ideas and exercises.
Part of the way you change your body language and general behaviour, is to have a different mindset.
On here you will find repeated many many times that you must feel that you DON'T need a women to feel good, this is healthy and right.
Of course the paradox then kicks in, which is that you'll suddenly find female interest.
I recommend a book by susan jeffers called 'dare to connect'. Some people here will feel this is a bit too girlie psyco pop for SS, but I think you would benefit from it's ideas and exercises.
Take the NEED out your statement and replace it with
I'd PREFER a girlfriend in my life.
Any women in your life at the moment ie friends etc, are sensing on this neediness without you even knowing it.
And this neediness my friend is the exact thing limitng you from having any women you want.
I'd PREFER a girlfriend in my life.
Any women in your life at the moment ie friends etc, are sensing on this neediness without you even knowing it.
And this neediness my friend is the exact thing limitng you from having any women you want.
Blue Phoenix
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You need a girlfriend and I need a car!
At least a car is more useful, uh?
At least a car is more useful, uh?
Amen!
diablo
Master Don Juan
Idea #1: Read the DJB.
Idea #2: Read the DJB.
Idea #3: Apply your new knowledge.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.