I may have spotted a unicorn

[Prodoge]

The term "unicorn" is really controversial on SS with many different visions of what is a unicorn.
I believe that I have spotted one really close to me, here is why I think she is unicorn:

- She comes from a solid household (Parents together and wealthy)

- She goes out rarely and doesn't like clubs

- She is mentally stable

- She will be finacially stable ( in her senior year of becoming a teacher)

- She takes care of herself and does sport

- I am almost certain she has low mileage (95% sure)

- She is pretty (not hot, this means prety even without makeup, HB9 to me)

- She is intelligent (which I find attractive in a woman)


Now here is the controversial part.
We were in the same primary scholl back when we were 10-11 (she is one year older than me) and ironically I had a crush on her back then.
After primary school our paths went appart and we started talking again about 2 years ago as we share friends.

Recently I have been trying to get her on a date but she always had excuses (had to revise, babysitting this week end...) she also added when she is done with her exams in july she will be available ( I know with the excuses i should forget it but hey she is passing her final exams I mean fair enough).
So for now i am NC and will wait a bit and probably comtact her about mid july and see what happens.

I am kind of insecure because I don't know how much effort I should invest because I do believe she is worth some effort, not sure how much though.

I think i might have already done to much by asking her out 3-4 times and texting her every now and then (maybe once a week maximum)

 

[cola]

Just forget about her till July.

 

[Von]

The term "unicorn" is really controversial on SS with many different visions of what is a unicorn.
I believe that I have spotted one really close to me, here is why I think she is unicorn:

- She comes from a solid household (Parents together and wealthy)

- She goes out rarely and doesn't like clubs

- She is mentally stable

- She will be finacially stable ( in her senior year of becoming a teacher)

- She takes care of herself and does sport

- I am almost certain she has low mileage (95% sure)

- She is pretty (not hot, this means prety even without makeup, HB9 to me)

- She is intelligent (which I find attractive in a woman)


Now here is the controversial part.
We were in the same primary scholl back when we were 10-11 (she is one year older than me) and ironically I had a crush on her back then.
After primary school our paths went appart and we started talking again about 2 years ago as we share friends.

Recently I have been trying to get her on a date but she always had excuses (had to revise, babysitting this week end...) she also added when she is done with her exams in july she will be available ( I know with the excuses i should forget it but hey she is passing her final exams I mean fair enough).
So for now i am NC and will wait a bit and probably comtact her about mid july and see what happens.

I am kind of insecure because I don't know how much effort I should invest because I do believe she is worth some effort, not sure how much though.

I think i might have already done to much by asking her out 3-4 times and texting her every now and then (maybe once a week maximum)

This forum might try to convince you to next her since you found one

My réd flag from your post : "she a teacher"

Teacher tends to be busy and seek control,and be intellectually unchallenged.

I remember à Teacher for a date once told
me: i was too intellectual for her

Second redflag: she seems to love be in her stuff.

3rd redflag: you wrote she could be unicorn.

Cola is right, forget her until July. I will add treat her normally like any chicks.

Report back your experience... I had my fair share of 10hb super scholar and business wise... but never could get them to be interested and I dont know why.. but all went for taller,skinnier,quiet dude

 

[Prodoge]

Second redflag: she seems to love be in her stuff.

3rd redflag: you wrote she could be unicorn

Could you explain your 2nd red flag please?

Why would it be a redflag that she could be unicorn ? Isn't that what we all want for a ltr or wife material?

 

[MrAddiction]

You seeing her as unicorn might translate in you having oneitis = red flag

 

[zekko]

I think there was a thread recently that had some favorable things to say about teachers. Still, it's always best not to let your expectations get ahead of you.

 

[dustmuffin]

crap, just try to date her. If it doesn't work out move along. You will find out soon enough if she is a unicorn. Take colas advice. Don't worry about her till july.

 

[lizardking82]

I know the rush of emotions you get when you think you've spotted a unicorn, but try to control that, buddy. It can only lead to oneitis.

 

[Konada]

A unicorn is useless if she has no interest in you. 2 strikes, move on.

 

[darksprezzatura]

There is no unicorn, no one and no soulmate.

Anyone trying to sell that to you is manipulating you. Essentially in a oneitis, unicorn, soulmate situation, your mind is playing tricks on you.

The moment I start being attached to a woman or consider her the one, I start maintaining distance and try approaching other women.

Soon enough you'll notice her flaws and that she's really just another random beautiful girl.

 

[Von]

Could you explain your 2nd red flag please?

Why would it be a redflag that she could be unicorn ? Isn't that what we all want for a ltr or wife material?

''love be in her stuff'' aka just focusing on herself, her, her, her

Or also refering too ''I got an exam tomorrow I can't date, after that my gym, after that my social book, after that a brunch... no time for guys''