Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I made out with a girl now what?

tjslove

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Last night I made out with a girl that I have known for years dating on and off.............she has played games before. I made out with her after I expressed feeling about her.

She said to call her today? I like her.......I am a total chump and need advice please:mad: :eek:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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kdnash82

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You made out with a chick? So... basically, yall kissed, maybe slipped a little tongue in her mouth, maybe sucked on her neck a little bit, maybe even copped a couple feels on a covered boob.

All the blood rushed from your big head to your little head and you "expressed" your feelings to her?

This is probably the best advice you're gonna get. Erase her phone number. Don't contact her via email, chat, morse code, smoke signals, nothing!
Forget you know her. Find someone else and work up some kind of relationship with that person.

When girl A finally decides to call wondering why you haven't called her, set up a date. If she flakes, erase her from your life.
 

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kdnash82 said:
You made out with a chick? So... basically, yall kissed, maybe slipped a little tongue in her mouth, maybe sucked on her neck a little bit, maybe even copped a couple feels on a covered boob.

All the blood rushed from your big head to your little head and you "expressed" your feelings to her?

This is probably the best advice you're gonna get. Erase her phone number. Don't contact her via email, chat, morse code, smoke signals, nothing!
Forget you know her. Find someone else and work up some kind of relationship with that person.

When girl A finally decides to call wondering why you haven't called her, set up a date. If she flakes, erase her from your life.
Makes sense to me on so many different leves. This is the correct advice. I had a similar situation. Just when I thought this was the beginning to someting good, it was the beginning of the end, she started playing more games and that is how I ended here.

The only reason I would like to run into her is because I know that up until recent years, I didn't know exactly how to handle that type of situation.
 

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tjslove said:
Last night I made out with a girl that I have known for years dating on and off.............she has played games before. I made out with her after I expressed feeling about her.

She said to call her today? I like her.......I am a total chump and need advice please:mad: :eek:

Bad Things You Did:

1) Expressed your feelings to her: Strike one
2) Made out with a girl that has played you like a fiddle before: Strike two

Consequences Of Your Actions:

Indirectly your showing her you don't respect yourself because your putting your heart on your sleeve for a girl that doesn't respect you: Strike 1000


If you didn't have feelings for this girl I would tell you to just keep her on the side while you meet more girls. However you know that you like her and your giving her value based on her looks. She doesn't respect and she never will, be prepared to be played again.




PIMP
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Omen

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tjslove said:
Last night I made out with a girl that I have known for years dating on and off.............she has played games before. I made out with her after I expressed feeling about her.

She said to call her today? I like her.......I am a total chump and need advice please:mad: :eek:

Make out with her again.
 
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