Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
If she does b) and lies about seeing another guy how is OP supposed to know that she is lying so as not to trust her?pyros said:I would ask her about it.
By doing this she can either:
a) confess she's seing some other guy
b) lie about the fact that she is seing another guy
c) tell you another reason you did not even think about it
If she does a) or b) you know you cant trust her, so up to you.
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sylvester the cat said:If she does b) and lies about seeing another guy how is OP supposed to know that she is lying so as not to trust her?
Surely b) and c) are one and the same?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Jaylan said:EDIT: just saw OPs update.
Dude bail. If this girl is guilt tripping you and saying things that bother you, just bail. Plus shes hiding her online status, especially when thats your main mode of talking. I would just beat her to the punch and leave.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She has what's called the contrast effect... Which means she is internally comparing you to someone who you are in competition with. Also track her cycle...soulforge said:This is the first girl I've gotten serious about in ages... I, m feeling kind of hurt to be honest..
Did I do something bad? She said something that pizzed me off and upset me, so I called her out on it..
I have been nice to her, looked after her... but that does not mean I will tolerate bad behaviour!
Then she twist it all around and make me out to be insensitive and uncaring.. She accused me of not treating her like a guest in my house..
I have cooked many meals for this chick, looked after her everytime she came over.. then she throws this accusation in my face!!
I,m feeling somewhat hurt man!!!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I wouldnt be surprised if you picked a fight as 'payback' because you spent the build-up to the date stressing over the fact she doesn't give you the constant attention you crave.soulforge said:My doubts about this girl are developing even further.. she stopped at my house at the weekend..
She said said something to me that pizsed me off, so I called her on it... anyhow she started to guilt trip me, claiming I am not sensitive about her feelings and I should treat her better, as she is a guest in my house..
Guest or no guest, if a girl dis respects me or pissess me off, then I, m going to call her out.. simple as that!!
She then tried her best to manipulate me into believing it was all my fault, and I hurt her feelings.. I have so far treated this girl pretty good.. taken her out, cooked for her etc etc
Now she claims I,m not nice to her... I get the feeling this girl could be a manipulater...
She is acting distant on whatsapp, not talking as much..
even tho I like her.. 2 months in.. I, m thinking off dropping this chick.. I am sensing trouble ahead..
Also I met this chick on POF
We didnt even have the argument till the saturday night... she stopped over at my place from friday afternoon.. so get it right pal..OnTheRun said:I wouldnt be surprised if you picked a fight as 'payback' because you spent the build-up to the date stressing over the fact she doesn't give you the constant attention you crave.
Maybe this girl wasn't on Whatsapp for a few hours because she's a grown-up with a life? Maybe when she arrived at your house she expected to meet a grown man she could have a good time with, but- perhaps not for the first time- you were mardy and childish and made her feel uncomfortable?