SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
How long do you guys typically wait to say this to a woman when in a LTR?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I love you
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Tictac
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Usually after she does.
Dhoulmagus
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after a nice bj
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
never before.
I have noticed that you can say/respond to her without saying it directly, and doesnt seem to loose your frame:
"I love the way you do/say it/thing"
"I would really love it if you/we did/do thing"
I have noticed that you can say/respond to her without saying it directly, and doesnt seem to loose your frame:
"I love the way you do/say it/thing"
"I would really love it if you/we did/do thing"
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
When you feel like you should.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Lol I've said it to chicks I wasn't even with. Like they give me a bag of chips and I'm just like "holy ****, I love you". I'd expect an "I know" or something but they actually say "I love you too" haha and then I dunno what to think aside from chomping on my chips. All is acceptable given the context of the situation I suppose.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Never
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
This. I NEVER tell a woman that I love them. I show them. She can judge me by my actions. When she says "I love you.", I just tell her to "Get over here and prove it.", or "Show me how much."
If you find yourself in a 'relationship', where a woman gets ticked off with you for not parroting back "I love you." like a trained monkey, dump her. If she can't see by your actions how you feel about her then she will not be happy in a relationship.
daddymonsterpoodle
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+1. "I love you" is poison. You drop those words and the entire power dynamic changes, or at least she believes it does. She can also throw them in your face any time she is cross or wants something. "But you said you loved me...". "If you loved me you would....". When a woman tells me she loves me I either say 'thanks' or 'I know'.
CuddleJunkie
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**** man, "Get over here and prove it"...I will remember this.
RangerMIke
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You have to act like you really liked hearing what she said, and say this with a smile on you face. Works well... but you can't be a @ss.