"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lately there has been lots of trash talk about Moderators, interesting, valueable people leaving, and all.

I honestly don't know if this moderator, or the other is here all day, or if he insults someone. I mind my buissines, and have fun on this site. Why would I want to leave a site that speaks MY language, OUR language? The DJ language, that brings everybody here together.

If you get advice you don't like, dont take it. If someone offends you, tell them, don't offend them. If you see something you don't like, or maybe have seen before, stop looking.

There are tons of people that are "at your level"... that have the same "fluency" at speaking DJ. And there are also TONS of them who are freaking linguists when it comes to the DJ language.

Why do your posts get closed, or deleted? Because you are getting into the feelings area. You are not being objective. You are bringing animosity between us. You are separating the comunity with senseless criticism. There is a difference between senseless criticism (like ranting and insulting moderators and "normal users", and saying why you hate the site), and constructive criticisim .. like Pook's request for a Financial Forum.

Maybe, your post has all the characteristics to be a non-earasable post. But it lacks something. It has allready been posted. Do a little search, quick search, and then post.

Don't take it personal when Mods intervene in your art.

Constructive criticisism makes scars that eventualy makes us stronger. Senseless, and insulting criticism cuts of our body parts, feelings, and bonds... and these can't be THAT easily brought back.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Constructive criticisism makes scars that eventualy makes us stronger.
This is how I see it. Someone comes here and whines about how some girl pinched him and it hurts. Some experienced DJ comes here and kicks him in the stomach and says, "There, that pinch doesn't hurt so bad now, does it?" The whiny guy either leaves here because his stomach hurts, or he stays here because he realizes the DJ has a point, and maybe there's more to learn. The whiny guy may get the 5hit kicked out of him while he's here, but he gets stronger and learns to fight back. The next time a girl pinches him, he just laughs.

I love you All.
Sorry man, I love myself more than you. :D
 

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For some reason this reminded me of a Jerry Springer episode where after one guy said "Yeah i'm a redneck i admit it" crowd went "we love rednecks, we love rednecks", to which he responded "And rednecks love ya'll".
 

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Good post.

I see most of the complaining posts and nazi-accusions etc. are just humour. Nobody is serious when he says "HEY YOU MODERATOR SUCK ASS AND I FAWKED YOUR MOMMA LAST NIGHT"
If he is serious, he is a dumbass by making a flame.

If a moderator (for example) really sucks ass we go to S&F Forum and discuss about it like grown ups.

Most of the really visible flaming that has came around is just for fun.
Check my signature if you don't believe.

Originally posted by Desdinova
Sorry man, I love myself more than you. :D
?? He didn't say anything about that you should love him.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Desdinova
That's what I hate about the internet. Sarcasm doesn't work as well as IRL
Yeah, I thought the comment was just plain stupid ;)
 

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Haha, I love Sosuave too. It changed my life, that's for sure.
 

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Beautiful post.
 

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There is a LOT of valuable material on SoSuave.com.

Notice that the forum is hosted on sosuave.NET now
Also notice that I specifically said .com and not .net
Coincidence? Mistake? Subtle comment? :D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Desdinova
This is how I see it. Someone comes here and whines about how some girl pinched him and it hurts. Some experienced DJ comes here and kicks him in the stomach and says, "There, that pinch doesn't hurt so bad now, does it?" The whiny guy either leaves here because his stomach hurts, or he stays here because he realizes the DJ has a point, and maybe there's more to learn. The whiny guy may get the 5hit kicked out of him while he's here, but he gets stronger and learns to fight back. The next time a girl pinches him, he just laughs.


There is a difference between that, sarcasm, and plain simple insults. People are leaving because of senseless reasons, etc.

Desdinova, I love you MORE. ;)
 

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I love me too.
 
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