"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

I lose my confidence when...

X

Xenomorph

New Member
Joined
Aug 26, 2004
Messages
2
Reaction score
0
Age
42
I see another guy that looks "cooler" or seems to have more "confidence".

For example, today I saw a HB8. But my confidence was nowhere to be found when I saw another guy checking her out who also had his **** together. He didn't approach her but I couldn't bring myself to say anything to her.

Does any suffer from this problem?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

I

Ice Cold

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2002
Messages
2,313
Reaction score
2
Location
Moscow
So much support for the first post :D LOL

Try to reframe. Next time you see a guy, picture yourself going the same thing. Then think: "hey, if this guy can do it, I can do it too."

And you're gonna feel much better about yourself
 
D

Dukester

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2004
Messages
538
Reaction score
0
Age
40
Location
Dayton, Ohio
I find myself loosing confidence sometimes too. In fact, i was w/ a group of guys and girls, and i was eyeing this one girl, but the other guy cut in my way. i was doing my dj skills just great, except he kinda pushed me outta the way. i still didnt let it stop me from flirting with her though, and that sorta thing. actually, in the end, he ended up getting nothing, and i got her num. i felt that when he "cut in front of me" that he was better- turns out he was just an AFC, but i did loose some confidence. just gotta keep going man...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

C

chicksrock

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 10, 2004
Messages
523
Reaction score
2
Work on yourself...
make yourself unique..
then you will never feel like that ever again
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top