You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How do you pull that off?ChrizZ said:I wear them everywhere...
Fvck society...
Confidence.Stéphane said:How do you pull that off?
Do you also wear them in clubs? Because, that would kind of be wierd but cool.ChrizZ said:Confidence.
You will have to deal with lots of haters though.
I don't care though as long as I bang their girlfriends.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Especially in clubs.Stéphane said:Do you also wear them in clubs? Because, that would kind of be wierd but cool.
why wouldn't you, just because people are gonna hate you for it?Stéphane said:Is it a sport jacket/blazer or is it really a suit? Man, idk if I could wear a suit all the time.
so why don't you want to always dress in a suit then?Stéphane said:i'm almost 20 but I don't think age really mathers in this, because I got a way better education then most people in their late 20's
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
exactly my mindset.Alphamale1821 said:I love to wear suits and chic classy clothes, I soon plan to be sporting some Armani exchange suits and what not. And i seriously don't give a **** if any hater likes it or not. I'm a lover and they are a hater. Never understood the mind of a hater and never will. While they hate i'll continue to be me, and they will do what they do.
Yeah peeeeiiimmppp. Thats what I'm talkin about.ChrizZ said:I wear an all white suit with a white shirt.
Like this...
nice to see that others on here get it, too.Supremo said:Yeah peeeeiiimmppp. Thats what I'm talkin about.
Stephane, you don't always gotta wear a SUIT.
Try, nice jeans, nice shoes, button up (or good looking tee, but not as fancy), and expensive sports jacket.
Now I say expensive because (**** what those hippies say) the difference between a $50 sports jacket and a $300 sports jacket is tremendous. You'll only need a couple (black, blue, white (if you really want), its the undershirts you'll want a lot of. It's good to have collered shirts of all colors, styles (striped, textured, patterns, etc.)
Ties are an extra thing, not needed, but can be pulled off.
ChrizZ, you can pull off a full suit in a club? Right on, brotha. Me, I'd go with the nice jeans, nice button up (no tie) or cool teeshirt look.
Dress fly to look fly
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The more haters you have, the more it shows that you are on the right path.Joe The Homophobe said:I bought my first sports coat like 3 weeks ago and now I refuse to go out of the house without one! I went back 2 days later to get another one. Now I got 3 and am waiting for a paycheck to get me a suit (the jacket + matching pants).
I saw the trailer of "mean streets" (mob movie that introduced the world to young Robert De Niro) and I noticed the way the guys dressed there to hang out (sports coats, suits) and I really liked the look of Tony (hes in the trailer wearing the brown sports coat with black shirt) so I went to the store and got me a brown sports coat just like his (my first sports coat)
It definitely gets me noticed and I feel respect from women. I also feel a bit of jealousy as people look at me overdressed. I don't have chri's problem over here there are tons of hippis everywhere and I had read that they hate on anyone that they feel that looks like a "yuppy" (anyone that dresses decent pretty much). The important thing is you can feel that you are being hated by the haters, you can notice people giving you strange looks, but the one thing you know for sure is that sharp dressed men command respect from people (specially women)
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.