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Because I have feelings for her, we've been doing relationshippy things, and I honestly only want to date her at the moment.
You have to get those feelings under control by doing things that bring you happiness other than women (hobbies and such) and by talking/seeing other women.

Commitment talk should come from a woman. And you give a women commitment IF she earned it. As far as I can tell this woman hasn't earned anything.
 

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Because I have feelings for her, we've been doing relationshippy things, and I honestly only want to date her at the moment.
Damn, you've been bitten by the most poisonous snake in the world, brother - the Cobra Amor. You can distinguish her from other snakes by looking for her famous characteristics; her soft and feminine movements. She moves her hips like flowing water and squiggles her way slowly towards you. In fact, you even forget that you're dealing with a venomous snake because she's so soft and caring. Until it's too late and she bites you. Her venom now entered your bloodstream.

Common symptoms to look out for: total devotion, passive behavior, lower testosterone, an affinity for cleaning rooms and throwing out the garbage, always agreeing with her and never speaking up for yourself.

The one and only antidote: seeing and drinking the venom from as many snakes as possible and distancing yourself from the serpent that initially poisoned you.
 

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Because I have feelings for her, we've been doing relationshippy things, and I honestly only want to date her at the moment.
Dude, she already has you wrapped around her finger and you think you're in a position to play games with her and win? LOL
 

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lmao

You have to get those feelings under control by doing things that bring you happiness other than women (hobbies and such) and by talking/seeing other women.

Commitment talk should come from a woman. And you give a women commitment IF she earned it. As far as I can tell this woman hasn't earned anything.
What does a woman do to earn commitment?
 

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Saw her last night. Went for a drive, checked out the local fireworks stand (which doesn't sell anything cool), cooked burgers at her place, had sex a couple times, watched a movie. Was a good time. Nothing crazy to report.

We had been scheduling future dates the same night, but this time I didn't. I'm going to go silent for a few days to let her miss me and see if she comes to me (which she has before, so we'll see if she does again).
So, what I wanted to happen, happened. She hit me up last night...

Her: I would love to make you dinner sometime this week =)
Me: I'd love that. How about Thursday?
Her: Sounds good! Any requests?
Me: Surprise me. Chef's special ;)
Her: =) Mkay

I was pretty excited about this, because it was proof in my mind that she IS thinking about me and cares enough to make a move. Then I wake up to a text from her...

Her: Can we do Sunday instead actually
Me: Yeah that's cool
Her: Thanks =)

I tried to play it as cool as possible. She DID reciprocate, which is good, but this seemed weird to me. She hits me up saying she wants to make me dinner, which screams high interest, we schedule a date, then within 12 hours reschedules the date to three days later.
 

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So, what I wanted to happen, happened. She hit me up last night...

Her: I would love to make you dinner sometime this week =)
Me: I'd love that. How about Thursday?
Her: Sounds good! Any requests?
Me: Surprise me. Chef's special ;)
Her: =) Mkay

I was pretty excited about this, because it was proof in my mind that she IS thinking about me and cares enough to make a move. Then I wake up to a text from her...

Her: Can we do Sunday instead actually
Me: Yeah that's cool
Her: Thanks =)

I tried to play it as cool as possible. She DID reciprocate, which is good, but this seemed weird to me. She hits me up saying she wants to make me dinner, which screams high interest, we schedule a date, then within 12 hours reschedules the date to three days later.
Should have posted here before anwsering her.
Me: I'd love that. How about Thursday?

This was very good.

But her changing thing to fit her term is not.
Very good spot to use the take away.

I would not be surprise if she change her mind again
 

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Should have posted here before anwsering her.
Me: I'd love that. How about Thursday?

This was very good.

But her changing thing to fit her term is not.
Very good spot to use the take away.

I would not be surprise if she change her mind again
Yes. She will most likely do that.
 

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So, what I wanted to happen, happened. She hit me up last night...

Her: I would love to make you dinner sometime this week =)
Me: I'd love that. How about Thursday?
Her: Sounds good! Any requests?
Me: Surprise me. Chef's special ;)
Her: =) Mkay

I was pretty excited about this, because it was proof in my mind that she IS thinking about me and cares enough to make a move. Then I wake up to a text from her...

Her: Can we do Sunday instead actually
Me: Yeah that's cool
Her: Thanks =)

I tried to play it as cool as possible. She DID reciprocate, which is good, but this seemed weird to me. She hits me up saying she wants to make me dinner, which screams high interest, we schedule a date, then within 12 hours reschedules the date to three days later.
Just reciprocate what she did. Text her that something important came up and that you're completely booked out for the weekend. I don't know your plans, but tell her it has to be Friday. Thursday is also not an option anymore because you already stepped on that bomb. If she wants to move back to Thursday you reveal that you've already made plans. Don't start bringing up that she rescheduled when she starts talking about why you're not available all of a sudden. This will make you look calculated and butthurt. To her, you have to look like she's nothing but a small entertainment session in your busy calendar.
 

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Just reciprocate what she did. Text her that something important came up and that you're completely booked out for the weekend. I don't know your plans, but tell her it has to be Friday. Thursday is also not an option anymore because you already stepped on that bomb. If she wants to move back to Thursday you reveal that you've already made plans. Don't start bringing up that she rescheduled when she starts talking about why you're not available all of a sudden. This will make you look calculated and butthurt. To her, you have to look like she's nothing but a small entertainment session in your busy calendar.
Also the fact that she ia giving him a Sunday night says alot.
 

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Also the fact that she ia giving him a Sunday night says alot.
Exactly. Sundays are boring and not interesting at all. Why not Friday or Saturday? What if you want to go out and have fun? She basically implies that he's not worth any of the fun and cool days. I bet they end up playing Monopoly. When it gets too late she might even play the "I got work tomorrow" card. Dangerous spot to be in OP.
 

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My God what a pain in the ass dating has become.
 

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lmao



What does a woman do to earn commitment?

She has to make room for you in her life, life if she actually did make whatever small sacrifice and cook you a dinner. Her rescheduling is not a good sign.
 

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on another note she is too young. 10 year age difference is great when you are 40 and she is 30. She is 18, she's a child.
 

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Just reciprocate what she did. Text her that something important came up and that you're completely booked out for the weekend. I don't know your plans, but tell her it has to be Friday. Thursday is also not an option anymore because you already stepped on that bomb. If she wants to move back to Thursday you reveal that you've already made plans. Don't start bringing up that she rescheduled when she starts talking about why you're not available all of a sudden. This will make you look calculated and butthurt. To her, you have to look like she's nothing but a small entertainment session in your busy calendar.
I wouldn't do this. It's just unnecessary game playing that's going to lead to further drama as well as anxiety in your mind. She wants Sunday? Good. It gives you a week to "detach" from her and see at least one other woman in the meantime. You think she's seeing other dudes? Good. You have the advantage because you've already built a month+ of rapport, attraction, and good sex with her, so it'll let her see how much better you are than the other guys.

Don't hit her up until Sunday, and the only text you should send Sunday is what time you'll be there/want dinner ready and what she should be wearing for you. Once again, use this time to see other women. This "reschedule" could end up being a FAVOR for you in every way.
 

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Also the fact that she ia giving him a Sunday night says alot.
We have hungout on fridays/saturdays before. We hungout friday and sunday last weekend, and the week before that wednesday and saturday or something. I'll admit I'd rather her have rescheduled friday or saturday, but I'm going to try to schedule a date for friday and saturday with other women if I can.

on another note she is too young. 10 year age difference is great when you are 40 and she is 30. She is 18, she's a child.
She's 28 and I'm 30...
 

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Imo its only a pain if you let it be.
Too much mind fvckery and game playing these days. It’s like you have to decode what women say because what they say always has some hidden meaning that you have to figure out.
 

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Too much mind fvckery and game playing these days. It’s like you have to decode what women say because what they say always has some hidden meaning that you have to figure out.
I know but i think that crap can be avoided if you focus on what you want.

A game is played by 2 ppl let them play by themselves.
 

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I wouldn't do this. It's just unnecessary game playing that's going to lead to further drama as well as anxiety in your mind. She wants Sunday? Good. It gives you a week to "detach" from her and see at least one other woman in the meantime. You think she's seeing other dudes? Good. You have the advantage because you've already built a month+ of rapport, attraction, and good sex with her, so it'll let her see how much better you are than the other guys.

Don't hit her up until Sunday, and the only text you should send Sunday is what time you'll be there/want dinner ready and what she should be wearing for you. Once again, use this time to see other women. This "reschedule" could end up being a FAVOR for you in every way.
It's not a matter of playing games or intentionally creating drama, but having principles and sticking to them. The present is immediately connected to the future, at any moment in time. If you start giving in when it comes to scheduling dates, your subconscious will hold you back a little bit next time. Then a little further the time after that.

So it's actually not about the immediate effect in the short-term, but rather about him creating a certain energy and personality that doesn't do ABC but XYZ, because XYZ leads to more confidence and assertiveness in the long-term. Will he lose some flings in the meantime because of that? You bet you a*s he will. But he will evolve and eventually attract even more qualitative women like a electromagnetic crane attracts pieces of metal on the junkyard.

Who am I to make a man decide when he should see a woman? Don't listen to me if you don't want to. But I've experienced this many times with women before. It feels damn good and thrilling when you know you call the shots. She will feel it even more intensive than you do.
 
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