"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I like this girl and I'm in a state of sadness

casanova

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Gentlemen, I need your help. I'm better looking than an average guy, confident, and fit or "buff" and there is this girl a grade above me and I really like her.

Let me take you guys through some history and make our relationship more clear. We are good friends and she is in love with my new dog. We aren't close enough that It is an obvious friend zone. Around 7 months ago my friend asked her if she would date me and she said I am too young but she barely knew me back then. (She was my age when she said that she was just a year above me so she thought of that but i'm very close to her friends in her grade now so things might change.)

So, on her 17th birthday, we went to her house and drank a lot. It was a fun night and I wanted to spend time with her and eventually, she said she wanted to cuddle and something like that, I don't remember much and we ended up hooking up but we never spoke about it amongst us.

A week ago we went on a ski trip with school, I went because she was the only girl going and all of the nerds from her class were too and she didn't like them so we spent most of our time together away from the crowd. She was very cute we would snowboard together and once we both fell she started throwing snow at my face and we would cuddle in snow and that was nice. We would meet up after dinner and work on our projects together. And on the way back on the bus she would have her head on me the whole time and every day I just want her more and more but it's not the I want to hook up with her feeling, I want a relationship but I'm in fear and sadness.

Basically, I don't know what to do, do i ask her out? Do i tell her how I feel? Get closer? Someone help me!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Spaz

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Well she has displayed right out in the open that's she's attracted 2 u.

And she's waiting 4 u 2 ask her out on a proper date.

And then she's gonna get u 2 ask her 2 go steady....

Need I say more?
 

Spaz

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Oh u need a step by step guide on asking girls for dates huh..

1. Don't text, either you call her over the phone or personally ask her face 2 face.

2. Keep ur 1st date simple. Movies and dinner/lunch will do. Make it fun. The more dates u go on with the more u make a connection.

3. If u get rejected that's fine. U didn't hv a date with her before and now u don't. So nothing has change. Be prepared 4 this possibility.

4. Go back to step No. 1
 

The Duke

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Drop them panties son! There is no big mystery to solve here.
 

marmel75

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Lmao...what do you mean what do you do? You invite her over for a study session and then start showing her you want to study anatomy by starting Kino or you ask her out.

Basically take action.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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devilkingx2

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It's better to hook up some more until it turns into a relationship than to get her by going on formal dates.

But either path you go on, whether asking her out (no dinner dates!!!) Or just inviting her to netflix n chill with you is likely to succeed at this point
 
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